The last time we talked I was telling the story of how I met my d*ck appointment now boyfriend, and if that statement was an ever so surprise to you, then you have a lot of catching up to do.
Nevertheless, if you follow me on any socials or are friends with me in any way, then you know that we now live together.
Our journey through long distance, a pandemic, and a few other bumps in the road all led up to this very moment.
Don’t get me wrong, living with Aiden is something that I am so grateful for and I wouldn’t change it any other way…BUT there are a few things that I wish I knew before making the big decision!
- The Awkward Convo About Finances
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I only say finances because if you are considering moving in with your partner, finances are something that NEEDS to be discussed for various reasons (rent, bills, etc.). I am very private about my money for various reasons and I am the type of person to want to split things right down the middle. However, I wish someone would have told me sooner to get comfortable talking about finances with Aiden.
- If I Am Cooking Dinner, He Cleans The Dishes
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POINT. BLANK. AND PERIOD. After 2 weeks of living together we had a long talk about chores and whatnot. This included me expressing my feelings of unequal sharing of workload when it came to chores. I am lucky that Aiden is really understanding, so after telling him that he needed to contribute more, he did. Which means if I’m cooking dinner, he’s cleaning the kitchen, and vice versa.
- Alone Time is Literally ALONE Time
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This is something I struggled with a lot. Aiden is my best friend, we literally do everything together. So, when he would leave for his hybrid class, or to go hang with friends, it was hard for me. However, we talked about how we need our alone time to be individuals, to work on what we need to focus on. Now I love my alone time all too much.
- The Weird Stops Becoming So Weird
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I know I’m weird okay. I have crackhead energy shooting out from all aspects of myself. What I didn’t know was that I had met the one person on earth that acts just as weird as I do. LITERALLY. We are weird together, and it’s quite possibly amazing.
- Never Go to Sleep Angry
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One thing I had to work on was opening up to Aiden more. After we moved in, we experienced our first argument. My first instinct was to drive away before I said something to hurt his feelings…lol. After a while though, it began to become toxic for us because we were never talking out our issues. We decided to come up with the “never go to sleep angry” rule. Where no matter what we are upset about, we ALWAYS talk it out before bed.