Everyone has been or knows someone who has been through those relationships. Either it was just a few months or a couple years, girls can grow to really think he’s the one. “How can I ever get over him? I am so in love with him!” These are normal thoughts to have coming out of a relationship, fling, or even a thing. LADIES, let us show you how to realize that there really are millions of fish in the sea. So when your friends tell you the following, really do listen to them.
- He really was not good for you.
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Whether he broke up with you or you broke up with him, the relationship is obviously not worth your time and here’s why. If he broke up with you, then his feelings were not as mutual as yours were for him and no girl deserves to be in an unequal relationship. If you broke up with him, there was obviously a reason that you are probably denying after the breakup only because you are missing him. REMEMBER THIS REASON (he is rude, and mean, and sloppy, and frizzy) and keep reminding yourself every time you miss him and want to pick up your phone to contact him.
- After that good cry, focus your energy and thoughts on more important things in your life.
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Don’t let that one boy define your college experience! Think of the more important things in your life, such as your studies, friends, and family. Your parents aren’t paying so much tuition for you to spend your time crying over a boy instead of studying and keeping your grades up. Make sure you prioritize your education, since that is what will impact your life and determine your future occupation. You do not want to look back and regret spending your time moping over that jerk instead of studying and receiving better grades to help you become successful.
- Take this as an opportunity to spend more quality time with those who truly care for you.
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Did you ever find yourself spending enormous amounts of time with him and possibly neglecting those best friends who were always there for you? It’s okay, this happens to just about every girl in a relationship. It can be hard to balance time spent with your friends and your boyfriend. Now that you don’t need to stress about when you’re going to see your BFF when every lunch is spent with him, you can finally catch up and build upon that genuine and lasting relationship that you and your besties share. Go out and have a GNO (Girl’s Night Out) with all your girlfriends. Do all the things you guys have planned on your bucket list that you just haven’t gotten around to.
- Do not answer him or let him continue stringing you along.
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The more you spend your precious time talking to him, the more you are becoming attached to him making this whole getting over him thing much harder! I know, this may make you feel better in the moment and make the situation feel bearable, but it’s only going to make you hurt more in the future and long run. As impossible as it may feel, do not respond to him. If needed to, block or unfollow him on all social media. You don’t need to see what he’s up to without you, because let’s be real no matter what he puts on there, he is always going to be missing you at least a bit but will not show it on social media. Think of it as ripping off a Band-Aid; you don’t want to do it slowly and painfully, you need to get it over with quick and fast so that you can feel better much sooner!
- Talk to the other fish in the sea.
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As much as you’re thinking “I am not ready to move on”, just simply talking and interacting with other boys can help you realize what other types of boys there are out there in the diverse sea of college. So grab your phone and finally snapchat that cute boy you’ve noticed in your chemistry class. Or even if you haven’t talked to any other luring guys, start putting yourself out there and approach them or simply add them on Facebook. Meet those guys who are and will treat you so much better than he did!