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Wellness > Mental Health

why it’s okay to not be okay

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at TCNJ chapter.

So many people today are under immense pressure to be the absolute best that they can possibly be. And while it is a good thing to strive to be the best version of one’s self, people tend to feel like failures when everything doesn’t work out the way they planned. Due to the ever present social media, everyone sees only the best part of people’s lives online. 

And that’s why social media really sucks. We only see what they want us to see.

The beautiful model laying on the beach with a huge smile plastered on her face, doesn’t share that she spent the last week of her life getting treatment for an eating disorder. And the extremely successful business woman showing off her new pair of shoes, doesn’t share that her husband cheats on her every night. And why would they?

People only post about the good things.

And because of this, people have a fake sense of reality surrounding what life is really like. Life isn’t always sunshine, laying on the beach, and drinking a fruity beverage. Sometimes life is sobbing uncontrollably in the bathroom while your friends try to help you pull it together. Yet we only see a picture of four girls smiling at a bar; because no one posts about the bad stuff. That’s why our generation struggles so much with the idea of failure. We do not know how to handle it because we never see it. 

So when something bad does happen to us and we don’t feel happy, successful, or confident, we believe that we are the only one’s going through it. We feel like we’re failing. That’s why it’s so important to know that it’s okay to not be okay. Not everyone is always going to feel great about themselves all the time and that’s normal. 

It’s okay to not have everything figured out yet.

It’s okay to feel really sad sometimes.

It’s okay to choose yourself first.

It’s okay to feel a little lost.

It’s okay to ask for help.

Social media might make it seem like everyone has their lives all figured out, but they usually don’t. Everyone is fighting their own battle, and it’s important to remember that, and to always be kind. Take solace in the present, enjoy the little things that make you happy, and take it day by day. Soon you’ll figure everything out and be happy. 

We are strong, we are powerful, and we are resilient.

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President of HCTCNJ, Panhellenic Delegate for AXiD, Communications Major with Marketing/Management Minors!