University is a time in our lives marked by change, bringing with it new experiences, opportunities, and challenges. While some people already feel comfortable spending time alone, for others, moving to university can be the first step towards independence. Although university is filled with opportunities to try new things and meet new people, it also comes with more alone time than you are probably used to. This may take time to adjust to, but you can always change your mindset about being alone and learn to embrace your own company.
Humans are naturally social creatures and are often surrounded by others, meaning that spending time alone can sometimes feel unfamiliar or even uncomfortable. But it is important to remember that you don’t have to rely on others to make every experience enjoyable. Learning to do things independently can be incredibly rewarding. It allows you to discover more about yourself and become comfortable in your own space.
Remember, solitude is not loneliness. Being alone doesn’t always mean you’re isolating yourself from others. Independence is an important part of growing up, so learning to do things by yourself is vital. You can still have a fulfilling social life while appreciating the time spent alone.
There is this constant pressure of only being young once, but don’t let that dictate your life; do what makes you happy. In fact, being comfortable alone can make your relationships with others more meaningful, because you’re spending time with people because you want to, not because you feel you need to. Try to recognise when you need social connection and that having a social life and enjoying solitude can coexist. Most importantly, you should not have to rely solely on your friends for happiness – sometimes you should be able to provide that for yourself.
One of the best ways to appreciate your own company is by creating your own happy place. Moving to university often means leaving behind home comforts, so it is important to personalise your space and make it somewhere you enjoy spending time. Whether that is by creating a picture wall, putting up fairy lights, or decorating with your favourite things, these will all make your room feel more like home.
Learn to spend time doing things that you enjoy, as everyone has their personal preferences. This could include going on a walk, shopping or reading. I personally enjoy listening to music and walking on the beach to clear my head and de-stress, but everyone is different, so do what works for you. The transition from school to university affects each person differently, but everyone has fewer classes in a day at university, so it is important to make sure that you have hobbies to keep yourself occupied outside of self-studying.
I also find it helpful to have a routine which helps me to relax and unwind. After a long day of studying, there is nothing better than coming back to my room and watching a good film or reading a good book. I recommend trying to have a dedicated self-care evening once a week. This could involve having an everything shower, doing a face mask, eating your favourite food and getting into bed early. It is worth creating small routines that make your everyday life more enjoyable, as while it may not seem like it, your surroundings shape you, and so these small changes can make a big difference.
Ultimately, don’t spend your university years waiting for someone else to add joy to your life. Create a life you love for yourself, even if that’s in your own company.