It can be hard to tell someone no, especially when you like and care for them. However, in this day and age, it can be so easy to fall into pleasing people, and it is time for you to reclaim your power and stand up for what you believe in. In the right circumstances, “no” is the correct answer, and you shouldn’t feel the need to explain yourself to someone if they ask for information, because “no” is a full sentence. Today I will explain why the power in saying no is so important.
Helps you establish boundaries:
Saying no can help you establish boundaries with not only yourself but also with others. Many times when people are asked things like, “Oh, do you want to hang out?” the person may be inclined to say yes only because they don’t want that person to be alone. However, what if saying yes is only draining your cup and not filling it up? This can lead to things like burnout and the formation of bad relationships because you feel the need to do things out of obligation rather than want.
Why saying no is hard:
Most times, saying no is hard because people fear disappointing others, the person themselves does not like hearing the word “no,” and “no” is a negative word. All of these reasons are valid in their own way. However, it is important to understand that in order to balance authenticity, peace, and confidence, you have to get uncomfortable with saying no and not just yes because you feel like this is the correct answer.
How to start implementing small “no” wins:
Say no to at least one thing every day. This could be not eating a bunch of sugary snacks or saying no to going out when you know that you have a test tomorrow. Once you get into the habit of saying no, it will be easier to say no when you have to rather than just falling into a people-pleasing mentality and saying yes. This by no means is going to be an instant change, and it should be worked on as often as possible.