How Vulnerability Can Help Create New Connections

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, accountability, and authenticity,” says Dr. Brene Brown.

Humans are social animals hardwired to connect with others and vulnerability is what helps bridge these relationships. Unfortunately, most people get the wrong impression and think that being vulnerable means showing weakness. Those who have a misconception about vulnerability tend to hide their true selves and pretend to be someone they aren’t which leads to disconnection. There are also individuals who struggle with being more open due to the fear of rejection and abandonment.

I totally get it. As an empathetic person myself, people are quick to judge when I reveal something personal about myself. They ask me why I share my “secrets” and think I am not careful enough. Though, the truth is that I just like to stay present and grounded with my feelings while allowing others to feel comfortable around me.

Vulnerability is scary. We are uncertain about the risk our thoughts may bring. Even though this might be the case, we shouldn’t look upon vulnerability as a dark emotion, but instead, embrace and view it as a strength. Everyone has flaws here and there. It’s perfectly normal.

We all want to feel belonged and worthy. It takes a good amount of empathy to understand each other’s backgrounds. When we are vulnerable, we are able to share our personal experiences and feelings freely. By opening ourselves to others, we can create a safe and non-judgmental space for others to do the same. Sharing is caring.

Interaction becomes so much easier and interesting when people are real with each other. Being vulnerable allows us to see fresh perspectives that were previously blocked in our minds. Conversations become more candid and meaningful.

I hope there will be more active vulnerability in the future and people will be less afraid to be true to others. I hope that schools are able to teach students how to be more open and vulnerable because that would solve many mental health issues.