Let’s get something straight here folks: You need to find out what you like before you expect a great sex life.
We’ve been bamboozled. Through movies, we’ve been shown that a girl will almost always have amazing sex with their male partner. The truth is, women reach orgasm 30% of the time during penetrative sex alone, compared to men who experience an orgasm 97% of the time.
That is a huge gap and there are actually a lot of factors as to why.
For the longest time, society has taught women that sex is an activity that should only be initiated by men, that it was always the woman servicing the man, and that it’s only his pleasure that matters. Luckily, this is 2021 and although we aren’t completely out of the woods with this misconception, we as a society are coming closer to finally embracing female pleasure.
It’s okay to love sex. It doesn’t always have to be romantic sex either, hell, sex is whatever you make of it.
With all that being said, embrace your sexuality. To first get started, here are a few ways you can explore your body:
Find out where and how you like to be touched
This one’s pretty important. If you didn’t already know, many of the erotic spots on a female body contain a huge amount of sensory nerves. Sensory nerves make you sensitive in a certain spot, so when touched, your body reacts and it makes you feel nice.
Sensitive areas include the nipples, neck, lips, and clitoris.
The clitoris contains 8,000 nerves which is double the number of nerves in a male’s penis. This is definitely a spot that you should explore.
My tip is to first locate the clit if you don’t know where it is. Touch it in different ways. Slow, fast, soft, hard, in circular motions or in stroking motions. Everyone’s body is different and it’s really just trial and error when discovering what you like.
Find out what turns you on
Is it tall individuals with sultry voices? Or is it your hot neighbor with the full-sleeve of tattoos? Or is it the way your partner treats you like royalty after you get off work? Finding out what turns you on is like a gateway into getting in the mood in the first place.
Some women may be strictly against porn, but if you are someone who is open to trying it, by all means! Check out Bellessa.com, a porn site that’s specifically made for women. I recommend going on Bellesa than all the other pornography websites due to ethical reasons, such as how women are portrayed in the films and fair pay. Check out this article I wrote earlier this year for more reasons on why Bellesa tops all other x-rated sites.
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