It seems like we spend most of our lives trying to define ourselves. Every choice we make seems to say something about who we are and how we fit into the world. Then there’s this idea, that after you go on some life-changing trip or have some realization that you can truly “find yourself.” That you’ll just wake up one day and say, “Oh, so this is who I am! I don’t have to look anymore!” Well I’m here to say that idea is a load of crap.
Don’t ever stop looking for yourself. Keep digging and discovering new things about who you are. Surprise yourself with things you didn’t know you were capable of. Push yourself to be better and try new things just for the hell of it. You might hate it, but you also might love it. Like this cat who might or might not be having a good time:
Stop trying to sort yourself into some category. You don’t have to fit yourself into some box to make yourself more understandable to other people. You don’t have to explain who you are to anyone if you don’t want to. You can be anything and everything you want or none of the above. It’s your choice and no one can decide who you are except for you.
Just because you haven’t “found yourself” doesn’t mean you’re nothing. Declining to define yourself for the convenience of others is freeing. By all means, keep discovering things you love and things you hate. Figure out what you want and don’t want. Keep pushing yourself out of your comfort zone.
I don’t mean that you can’t like who you are now. I just mean that you shouldn’t stop there. Don’t get comfortable and think, “Well this is it. This is who I am”. Always keep looking, and just remember that the day you find yourself is the day you stop growing as a person.