I’ve read countless novels that all portray love as the center of the universe; countless novels that all allude to love as the remedy to pain and evil. They say that love is what we need to survive, what we need to fix the damage inside of us. Yet all of these novels forget to mention, moments we mistake for love. Moments of passion and intense heartbeats. Moments of magic, and electric desire. Moments not only our brains, but our hearts deceives us.
Lust: We most commonly mistake lust for love- misuse and misinterpret.Lust is a rush. An epic rush of passion; an intense desire. Thrilling eye contact in a crowded room. A tornado of tingling butterflies from head to toe. It’s a feeling of new. A feeling of excitement and sparks. Lust is a temporary attraction. It fades. And it certainly fizzles. The desire dissolves and the electric current burns. Lust is magic. Love is real.
Comfort: I, myself, certainly find security much more appealing than the beat of my wild, crazy and chaotic heart. But, let’s be honest- we all do.To stay with someone, for no other reason than the familiarity of the relationship is not love. Stop neglecting the sound of your heart. Listen to the messy harmony. You are not in love. You feel safe.Remember the mind manipulates us when we are in our most vulnerable states.
Past:It’s human nature to reflect and reminisce about old memories we are fond of and feel a slight sensation of regret- to think what if.We all like to think what our lives could be, if we are not content with the present. And when are we ever content with the present? We like to imagine a future- a future that could be. Nostalgia is normal. Do not confuse it with love.
Replacement: Company after a cold spell of loneliness. So, in other words- a replacement, a rebound. We crave attention. And we crave affection. You cannot force yourself to love someone. You cannot force yourself to love someone when you feel like you are too weak to be alone. You are not weak. You will never be weak. You and your heart are strong. Wait until you find love and be in love. Do not fill the empty chambers of your heart with a fallacious soulmate.
To Love, or Not to Love: To deeply love someone, to deeply care for someone, is not the same as being inlove with someone. Though it is sometimes hard to distinguish between the two, being in love is something you are unsure of- you question it, you doubt it. While, loving someone is simply something you know. Deception is deadly, and certainly a cruel joke of the universe. Falling in love with someone, and a wave of platonic sparks often feel the same, yet the truth unravels within time. Sparks sizzle. Falling in love never fades.