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I hate how the internet popularized the term “delusional.” Maybe it’s the psychology student in me, or maybe I’m just sensitive, but since when has it been funny to make someone’s warped mental state into a meme? Don’t get me wrong, I’ve probably reposted hundreds of posts about being “delulu,” but recently something in me has flipped.  

I’ve always been open about my mental health struggles. The way that I work through my problems is being open, sometimes too open with my friends about what I am going through. I’m not necessarily proud of it, but I’ve been known to share some of my darkest thoughts during casual conversations. I realize it can make people uncomfortable at times, but my true friends know that I’m the type of person who needs to get things off of my chest in order to feel content with myself.  

Unfortunately, this way of coping has subjected me to often being called “delusional,” “crazy,” or other terms that can be used to refer to someone with an abnormal mental state. Although I can sit here and blame myself for it, I believe that we, as a society, should do something about the casual use of these terms. You are not crazy for having an atypical way of processing something. 

Most people who know me know that I have a hard time moving on from failed relationships. One of the single most challenging tasks over the course of my life has been to accept that something isn’t meant to be. I’ve been known to make a big deal about any small ounce of intimacy, grasping onto something even if everyone else thinks that it’s barely there. Although this attribute consumes my thoughts and often leaves me lying awake at night, it serves as a running joke amongst my friends about how I’m “delusional.” Am I though? 

Okay, I can’t get over my ex, but have you ever thought that maybe I don’t want to? It’s my own life, not some made up narrative. I may sit here and overanalyze certain elements of moments, but these are the moments who have made me the person I am. I have the right to attempt to understand them. I’m simply a human being processing the highs and lows of my own unique experience, and to be honest, I find that beautiful. Just because my mind doesn’t work the same way as yours, doesn’t mean that I’m crazy.  

Adria Hoadley is a second-year student at St. Bonaventure University from Union Springs, New York. She is excited to be a new member of the St. Bonaventure University Her Campus chapter and looks forward to the new experiences it will bring! Passionate about mental health, societal issues, and womanhood; she plans to express these ideas in her writing. As a psychology major, Adria enjoys learning new things and exploring ideas that may be foreign to her. After graduating with her undergraduate degree from SBU, she hopes to go on and get her master’s degree in school counseling, while also having her own therapy patients. Outside of academics, Adria participates in Silver Wolves, a program at St. Bonaventure that connects students to elderly residents in the local area, along with any other volunteer opportunities that may come up. In her free time, Adria enjoys spending time with friends, trying new restaurants, going on walks while listening to music, and online shopping. Since a young age, Adria has enjoyed reading. Adria loves sharing her voice and is excited to be able to do that through writing. She looks forward to joining the sisterhood of Her Campus and sharing her thoughts and ideas!