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From Setback to Success: Turning Failure into a Stepping Stone

Bianca Gardner Student Contributor, St. Bonaventure University
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at SBU chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

For as long as I can remember, school has been my dwelling place. I learned this at a young age, and thankfully, it has stuck with me until now and in counting. Academic validation is something I feed off of, and I’m sure many others do as well. The rewarding feeling of receiving an A on an exam, or being able to flawlessly answer comprehension questions is something that cannot be fulfilled materialistically. Because of my infatuation with school, it is my life goal to reciprocate that to others through my dedication in my career path of becoming a future educator.

Beginning in highschool, it was unfortunate the circumstances my class had to face. We started high school in what seemed like a never-ending pandemic. All of our content was modified, and we didn’t get to receive that full transition from online to in person, as they made us do both. With all honesty, it was an amazing year and I absolutely thrived. I made so many friends, kept up my good grades, as well as becoming more involved in any extracurriculars available after being on lockdown for so long. Truly, I saw a bright path moving forward in highschool.

Furthermore, when the term “sophomore slump” is used, it is employed precisely. To say my sophomore year was challenging, would be a complete understatement. It all began with my beautiful mother, whose challenge became my own. At just fifteen, I became a full time caretaker for my mother after her unfortunate accident leaving her disabled. Truly, this took a large toll on me, causing many setbacks. I started to miss school, fail my tests, and overall spiral into someone I never thought I could become. Losing all of my motivation was without a doubt something I never deemed as possible; however, it is something very real that I had to face as well as overcome with time.

Following these events, it was the summer going into my junior year. I had just failed my sophomore year, and was unsure how I would ever make a comeback. I decided to attend a football game the week before starting school, and it inevitably changed my life. I met my now boyfriend, and for the first time in my life I felt purpose. Not just for myself, but for everything that should have had meaning before. He brought life back into my soul when I had no hope, which eventually pushed me to long term success. I ended up passing both my sophomore and junior year in the span of two semesters, as well as involving myself in sports, community service, academics and many more activities. This was the year of my life, despite what had happened in the past as well as the current things in my life. This year, I applied and was accepted to my DREAM school (SBU), and I will never forget how hard I fought to get there.

Regarding the remainder of my time in highschool, I would say it was flawless and unforgettable. Because of those challenges I faced, I ended up where I am today and there is not one thing I would change. Educating the future of society is something I wake up and put my heart and soul into working towards. If I could give any advice to someone who feels like they are failing, I would tell them although it seems like you are in this alone, the outcome will be worth it. There is always something or someone waiting to plug the lamp in for you; however, patience is key. All good things are worth waiting for, and with that time they will come.      

Bianca Gardner is a Freshman at SBU. She is a Student Ambassador, apart of an intramural badminton and basketball team, as well as a part of the Honors Program. Her passion and love for academic writing, has inspired her to dip into trying more freestyle writing pieces. This is her first year being involved in the Her Campus program, and she is looking forward to seeing what this club has to offer.

Bianca is currently studying a Triple Certification in Education, with a concentration in English. Aside from Her Campus, Bianca finds joy in attending various on campus events, as well as studying. Having very goal oriented friends surrounding her has really impacted her focus and well-being in her academic career at SBU.

Outside of her academic life, Bianca finds joy in being adventurous, spending time with friends, as well as participating in community service acts. Frequently in the nicer seasons, you would most likely find Bianca at the batting cage, or reading a book outside as that is her peace in all chaotic times.

Coming from her small hometown, Jamestown, NY, has really taught her to cherish the little things in life, as well as to make something special out of so little.