As I advance through my college career, I am now more than ever being challenged to put my social skills and abilities to the test. Managing social invitations, networking, and digital communication can sometimes be overwhelming, so here’s how I charge my social battery.
Recognizing My Limits
Like any other aspect of our mental health, it’s crucial to acknowledge any triggers and know your limits, especially regarding social interaction. I know when I’m hitting my limits when I experience fatigue and irritability throughout the week. As time goes by, it takes less and less effort to get to my limit. Sometimes I can be taken out for the entire day after a simple Zoom Meeting. But instead of pushing through those feelings, I listen to what my mind is communicating to me and I choose to take a break.
Setting Boundaries
To help myself recoup and recharge, I set boundaries and get some downtime throughout my week. Usually, this means I’ll turn down an invite to a social event or mute any group chats I don’t want to be involved with for the time being. This is primarily so I’m showing my best self during social interactions as I always want to give 100% time, energy, and effort in everything I do.
Digital Detoxing
Throughout every aspect of my day, I utilize digital communication to complete my work/school responsibilities. Adding that on top of my addictive media scrolling when I’m passing the time, I have to unplug every now and then. At a minimum, I’ll stay away from all electronics for an hour. But if I can spare the time, I’d like to take an entire evening to unplug. This helps me stay in the moment with my life and enjoy my personal space, and it usually ends with a great night of sleep.
Solo Dates
My favorite way to recharge my social battery is going on a solo date, whether it’s taking myself to lunch, a movie, or an event. I enjoy myself and can go at my own pace with whatever I choose to do. It’s also taught me to appreciate my existence, knowing I can have fun alone without needing company.
One of my favorite solo dates happened earlier this year when I attended the Hella Plants Market at the San Francisco Fair Building. I purchased my first houseplant, as well as some soaps and perfume. Additionally, I enjoyed exploring the offerings of various vendors. As I was leaving the market I was walking to the bus stop and past the Girl Scouts table, and I just couldn’t say no as I knew the Girl Scout cookie season was ending soon. So, with a plant in one hand and a tote bag filled with soap, perfume, and two boxes of shortbread cookies in the other hand. I had finally made it to my bus stop and made it home safely. Hella Plants Market is hosting another event at the same building on September 16th, where I’ll be going to get my third houseplant!
This year has already been a whirlwind of responsibilities, independence, and opportunities that can sometimes be overwhelming. I always enjoy every interaction with anyone I come across, but I’m an introvert at heart, and that’s always going to stay the same.