The truth is that everyone deals with some sort of uncomfortable change throughout
their 20’s and college years, whether that be changing friend groups, changing your
living situation, breaking up with a significant other, transfering schools, or family
changes. But everyone goes through it, so do not feel alone in whatever struggle you
are currently going through.
The best way to overcome change is to embrace it and go with the flow as much
as you can, because the reality is that the decision you make in your 20s are not the
end all be all, everything is not set in stone. And everything is temporary. In your
twenties things are constantly changing, you take new classes every semester, some
people move into a new dorm every semester, this means that you have plenty of
opportunities for a fresh start. When new changes arise don’t act as though your whole
life is ruined because its not. In college, nothing bad ever lasts for more than a
semester.
It can be hard to accept that some things are over. Some things can be small,
like getting a final grade at the end of the semester that there is nothing you can do to
change, or some things can be big, like cutting ties with a significant other of several
years. The best thing to do is to let go and move on. You can’t live your life thinking
about “what could have been” just accept what is. It is not healthy to live in the past or to
be constantly hoping that something better will fall into your lap. You worth is not
measured by grades, boyfriends, girlfriends or anything society says you “should” have.
Everyone is on their own path and it is okay to be doing things at different times than
your peers surrounding you.
Make a plan for yourself to adjust to your new changes. Whether that be to get to
know your new roommates, take some time for yourself, take a break from dating, or
start dating again. You shouldn’t go through life just letting things happen to you, you
should be proactive and help yourself to do better. Make a schedule for whatever way
you work best. If that means giving yourself hours of time to watch netflix in bed than
more power to you, or if it means scheduling your time to be the most productive you
can be than that is perfectly okay too.
The most important thing to learn from changes is that you can overcome them
and you are going to be okay.
“You are braver than you believe, smarter than you seem, and stronger than you think” – Winnie the Pooh