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WHY BEING PRESENT FEELS HARD IN A DIGITAL WORLD

Elise Mcloughlin Student Contributor, University of Nottingham
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Nottingham chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

Being present sounds simple. It is often described as slowing down, paying attention, and fully experiencing the moment you are in. Yet for many of us, presence feels increasingly difficult. In a world shaped by constant notifications, endless scrolling and digital comparison, our attention is continually pulled away from real life.

Modern technology is designed to capture and hold our focus. Social media, messaging apps and streaming platforms offer instant stimulation and quick rewards. Each notification provides a small burst of pleasure, encouraging us to keep checking our screens. Over time, this trains our brains to crave constant input, making stillness feel uncomfortable and silence feel unfamiliar.

As a result, many of us struggle to sit with our thoughts. Moments that once allowed for rest, such as waiting for a bus or having a quiet morning, are now filled with scrolling. This constant engagement fragments our attention and makes it harder to stay focused on one thing at a time. Even when we are physically present, our minds are often elsewhere.

Being present also requires emotional awareness, which can feel challenging. Digital distractions offer an easy escape from uncomfortable emotions such as boredom, stress, or sadness. Instead of processing how we feel, we turn to our phones for relief. While this may provide short term comfort, it often prevents us from fully understanding and addressing our emotions.

Ironically, technology can also distance us from meaningful connection. While social media allows us to stay in touch, it can pull us away from the people and moments directly in front of us. Conversations become interrupted by notifications and experiences are often viewed through the lens of documentation rather than participation.

Learning to be present does not mean rejecting technology altogether. It involves becoming more intentional with how we use it. Small changes can make a difference, such as putting your phone away during meals, turning off non-essential notifications, or setting aside time each day without screens. These moments of intentional presence help retrain our attention and restore a sense of calm.

Presence also deepens enjoyment. When we are fully engaged in an experience, whether it is listening to music, spending time with others, or simply resting, we tend to feel more satisfied and grounded. By allowing ourselves to be present, we create space for genuine connection and reflection.

In a digital world that constantly demands our attention, choosing presence can feel difficult. However, it is also deeply rewarding. Being present allows us to experience life more fully, appreciate small moments, and reconnect with ourselves in a meaningful way.

Elise Mcloughlin

Nottingham '27

I’m Elise McLoughlin, a second-year Psychology student at the University of Nottingham with a passion for exploring how the mind works and sharing that knowledge in fun, accessible ways. Through my studies and volunteering experiences in schools and mental health organisations, I’ve developed a real love for communicating psychological ideas to wider audiences. Writing for Her Campus gives me the chance to combine that passion with my enthusiasm for student life here in Nottingham.
On Her Campus, I’ll be sharing quirky psychological facts, practical wellbeing tips and little tricks to make university life a bit easier. I also love exploring the city, so you can expect recommendations on the best food spots, hidden gems and must-visit places around Nottingham. My aim is to keep things light, engaging and useful – the kind of content I’d want to read myself as a student trying to balance work, fun and everything in between.
Outside of studying and writing, I’m happiest when I’m diving into new experiences – literally and figuratively. I’m a qualified scuba diver, which has taught me a lot about staying calm under pressure (and appreciating the beauty of life beneath the surface). I also love travelling, discovering new cultures, and finding inspiration in different places and people. Writing ties all of this together for me – it’s a way to share stories, ideas and insights that connect with others