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SPOILER ALERT: ur not doing anything wrong – he’s just not into u.

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I don’t know about all of us college girls, but I know many of us have been ~oh so in love~ with someone who simply doesn’t want us back (See: Situationships). However, as much as it stings to be in this position, it hurts, ~oh so much worse~ when they tell you they “just aren’t looking for a relationship” and then


I was so so so so mad about it for the longest time. What does she have that I don’t? I’m prettier than her!!! I’m smart!! I’m funny!!! What is it about me that he doesn’t want? I raged on and on until I ended up even more hurt than I was when I first found out.

I’ve had a lot of time to contemplate what the deal was in these situations, and I’ve come to the conclusion that you know, maybe he just didn’t FUCKING LIKE ME, and that is FINE.

Not everyone will like us, especially the guys who we want to like us. Chasing something means it’s running away. Be okay with the fact that not every guy on this planet will like you. Do you like every guy on this planet? I know I don’t. I’ve made my peace with not always being liked. *This can apply to life in general, not just with guys*

No, I’m not always going to be the bigger person, and yes, I will always talk shit when I can because I am only human (and yeah maybe slightly bitter still), but honestly, realizing that maybe he just never liked me is the best thing I can do for myself. Hell, maybe I didn’t even like him — we always think we like the ones who don’t want us back, right?

LOL NOT ANYMORE! I did the whole pining after a guy who didn’t want me for a while, and it’s not worth it to continue on. “Well, maybe ….” MAYBE NOTHIN’. Move on the second he says he doesn’t want you. Guys don’t play games. If they don’t want you, they will tell you. Maybe they want Ashley or Emma, but they don’t want you. Don’t get butthurt over it – that means there is something meant for you closer. So what if you lost the guy who didn’t want you? 2022 is about us loving ourselves, and accepting love from those who love us.

And there’s my positivity speech for the day. Now, I mean this with all my heart…


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