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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at NCSU chapter.

Lately, I have been into saying no – to things I didn’t want to do, to people I didn’t want to talk to, to things I didn’t like – and you know what? It feels damn good to say no and not compromise my boundaries. I feel good, proud, and comfortable with my decisions; I feel like I can truly be myself.

I noticed I was losing myself recently when I continuously would say yes when I didn’t want to say it. Whether it was when I was asked to go out when I didn’t feel up for it, or when I was asked to do something I was uncomfortable with, or when I felt pressured to continue to be a part of organizations where I felt like I couldn’t be my true and authentic self, I was saying yes to things to please others. In the process of people-pleasing, I was suppressing the part of me who has always desired to be completely myself, and I started to feel like I was drowning.

Until one day, recently, I just started saying hell no to things I didn’t want to do, and hell yes to things I did want to do.

I started journaling a lot more heavily lately to really get in touch with what I actually like. I found out a lot of things, like, I don’t actually care much about gossip. After I realized how uncomfortable it made me to know about people’s personal lives via the mouth of someone else (when I had no business knowing about it), I just started removing myself from the situation. I mean, gossip all you want, I’m not judging (that much). I’m just sensitive, and negative gossip fucks with my personal boundaries and values to the point where I get physically uncomfortable. So, for that, HELL NO!

Whether you like to write that shit down or keep it in your head, figure out what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not comfortable with. If you don’t know about something, maybe try it once and then decide from there. But no matter what you decide, it’s your choice and your boundaries. People either respect that, or they can GTFO. Embrace your power as an individual and set those limits for not only yourself but for others. You can teach people how to treat you. Stop people-pleasing. You are here for a reason, and that’s YOUR reason.

If something isn’t serving you and your lifestyle anymore, you have the power to change it. Do what makes YOU happy and comfortable.

And remember that you can change your fucking mind, and that isn’t anyone else’s business. You can certainly say hell yes and change it to a hell no and vice versa.

Do something hell yes today, bitches.