You ever wonder how the hell do ladies survive so much stress, work, a social life, and school? Well first of all, we’re real life superwomen. Secondly, we know how to keep our sh*t together even when it really isn’t together. Every friend in my life juggles personal struggles, work, a social life, and school like queens. Personally, I have two jobs, take five classes, take part in community service, deal with personal issue, and keep up a social life. Sometimes it may feel like life is falling apart piece by piece. Once something goes right, another thing comes flying at you to knock you down. Here are some tips to handle life like a boss b*tch:
Never give up your social life! Friends and family are the support you need. Even when they don’t know it, they keep you afloat. Friends keep a smile on my face and distract me from when life is a struggle. Whether they take time to FaceTime you when you panic or they raise your happiness with movie nights, drunken and memorable nights, they make life better. Don’t forget that. Don’t push them away even when you want to crawl into a shell and hide from the world.
Make sure to keep track of deadlines and schedules! Keeping track of what days or times my work shifts are, the due dates for assignments in different classes become a blur, and when I have free time for fun is hard to keep up. I recommend using an journal or agenda. I make sure to write down. Though I don’t always remember to check or write things down, it’s a step in the right direction. If you can’t use your journal, notes on your phone work great! Before going to bed, I write a list of what I need to do for the week or day. I write the most important in caps and keep the app open then lock my phone. First thing I see in the morning is my list.
Always make sure to take care of yourself! With so many things going on, we sometimes make ourselves the last worry. I tend to leave my mental health last. I push it till the point I burst. Do not let yourself do that! Always make sure to self reflect. Take time at the end of the day to realize what you have accomplished, what you are proud of, and what you need to change. Take time to do face masks or draw (whatever makes you feel relaxed). I take my time to get ready in the morning with dance music to get me excited for the day. Even when I don’t want to get out of bed, I say to myself “I’m okay. It’s okay. I’ll be okay.” Then I look at myself in the mirror and say “You are smart. You are beautiful. You are important.” It takes around 23 days for your brain to actually start believing it. Practice it every morning.
Do not procrastinate! I know we always push things back. I for one struggle the most with this. I forget assignments or wait till 12 midnight to start my homework for the next day. Definitely does not work out and causes more stress. In the end it also takes time away from my friends because I leave things to the last minute. My theory is that subconsciously we tend to procrastinate because we are afraid to fail. If we try hard and fail, then we did bad using our efforts. If we do bad and procrastinated, then we blame it on the procrastination. “I didn’t work on it a lot of time do it wasn’t good.” That’s not the right way to handle things! Whether it be that or just plain lack of motivation or laziness, don’t do it! Why add extra stress in your stress in your life.
Though these work for me, it may not work for you. Do whatever feels right and whatever helps you. Don’t forget to love yourself and life your life like the boss b*tch you are!