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To the College Girl Struggling to Find Herself

We’ve all had experiences where we fall, we struggle, and we don’t know how to pick ourselves up. Either that, or we lose ourselves so much in a person or thing, that we end up not being able to find ourselves. I want to tell you that I’ve been there before and I want to help you. I know what it’s like to feel lost in the dark, to feel like you’ve completely lost your true identity, and to feel like you are anything less than a human being. First, I’d like to say one thing…


You are incredibly human.


Yes, you. You are incredibly human and that’s an amazing thing to be. Your struggles do not define you. Your enemies do not define you. Only you can define you. I promise that you will find a way back to yourself if not now, then someday.


Change plays a big role in self-discovery. Go out and change your hair, update your wardrobe, treat yourself to some new makeup products, or even simply tidy up your dorm. Change is such a good idea because there is no one that can ever tell you to stop. Change as much as you’d like. Once you’re satisfied with your results, I promise, you’ll be a few steps closer to discovering who you truly are.


Writing in a journal has helped me overcome a few struggles. Buy yourself a journal and write about your day. Write stories, poetry, or even draw! Journaling is definitely a form of therapy and can help in your journey to self-discovery.


Exercise can make anyone feel good about themselves. I mean, hello? Working for what you want and getting the results you want? I’m down for that. Exercising has helped me gain so much more confidence in myself and helped me become the person I want to be physically and mentally.


Finding yourself may seem impossible, but I promise you it’s not. I hope these tips to self-discovery can benefit you. Remember that you define yourself, so let’s all go and make that happen because we are incredibly human.


Odyssey grew up in Ossining, NY. She attends Manhattanville College in Purchase, NY as a Junior. There, she also works as a Circulation Student Supervisor at her college's library. Odyssey enjoys social media, writing poetry, writing articles for Her Campus, designing posters, and playing volleyball.  Contact: Email: [email protected] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/odysseymaryann
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