September is Mental Health Awareness month. Certain stigmas have always surrounded mental illness and breaking down barriers has become easier, but those stigmas still stand. It can be really difficult to watch someone you love struggle with mental illness, but not knowing how to support them through it can be even worse. Here are a few tips to help better prepare you to support a loved one who may be struggling.
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1. Ask them how they are doing daily.
It seems so simple to ask someone how they are doing, but for some people, even just asking, “how is your day going?” can make a huge difference. It can make the difference between someone being on the edge of a breakdown and reaching out for help.
2. After they tell you how they are; really listen to them.
Once again, it seems so simple, but really listening is so important when supporting someone who is struggling with mental illness. Listen, don’t sit on your phone or make it about yourself. Listening is more difficult than most people realize.
3. Don’t get upset if they bail out of plans at the last second.
Those who struggle with mental illness often times cancel plans at the last second. This is not because they hate you or really didn’t want to go in the first place. Mental illness causes so many roadblocks for those struggling and sometimes it is better to cancel plans rather than force someone to go out and risk their mental well-being.
4. Find out what helps them, whether it is lots of hugs or a few hours alone.
Everyone is different. Some people feel comforted by hugs and others just need some time alone. Talk to your loved one and find out what the best option for support is for them.
5. Be patient.
It is frustrating sometimes to deal with someone who is struggling with a mental illness, but be patient. Losing patience can cause your loved one to feel more alone or misunderstood.
6. Do some research.
Research can be really helpful when trying to figure out the best way to support your loved one. Knowing the basis of what someone may be going through not only shows you care about them, but it also will help you understand how to support them.
7. Take care of your own mental health.
Taking care of your own mental health is vital when helping someone else who is struggling. Two people struggling can become toxic very quickly. If you are struggling talk to your loved one and figure out how you both can support one another.
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