It’s sad.
Not to be the one who is always hit on.
Not to be the one that is always approached.
Not to be the one that gets a text the next day.
It’s hard, but there is a reason.
A reason that you don’t get flirted with or asked out. A very simple reason: you are a Pretty Girl.
But not just any pretty girl: the Pretty Girl. The one that holds your man to high standards. That isn’t impressed by the simplest of gifts or actions. In order to receive your time and energy, it requires work. A lot of work. Work that some men are not willing to give or put the time into.
Men know within the first few minutes of meeting a girl whether or not a girl is relationship material (the typically bring her home to mama); a notch on the bedpost (which is common in our generation, which is predisposed to hook-up culture); or a just simply a friend (I’m not attracted to this person, or she’s my bro).
Because hookup culture is so common nowadays, a lot of men are not willing to take a girl out to dinner or go on an actual date. Men want something easy. They want an easy catch, a girl that is easy to get with. Or better yet, an easy 45 minutes and done. The less effort a person has to put in, the easier the catch.
There is four main indications of how men know whether or not a girl is any easy catch:
1. How she presents herself
When discussing how one presents themselves, it’s referring to how you dress, how you walk, your level of confidence, the way you talk. Not to sound like a mother or an aunt, but the way you dress does matter. The way you dress showcases who you are as a person. For example, if you were getting interviewed for a job: you would dress appropriately for that event. You would also walk with confidence and have a strong voice that helps make you reasonable for the job. Think about that the next time you go out. A guy knows what he is looking at and whatever he sees gives him a big indication of whether or not it’s a hit or a miss.
2. The crowd she hangs around
“Show me your friends, and I will show you your future.” One of my favorite quotes and a true statement. The people you hang around matter because, like it or not, they will either be the reason you succeed or fail. If you have friends that party a lot or go out on school nights; chances are you are going to be partying and going out every night rather than studying at the library. If you have friends who support you andmake you better as a person and help you achieve your goals, they don’t hinder your achievement. Men notice the crowds you hang around and its showcases in who you are as a person.
3. Her values
Like marries like. A person with shared values is a lot easier to talk to than someone you have nothing in common with. I personally don’t believe that opposites attract, because you must have shared values. A match is better made between a couple who share similar values. It does matter what your politics, religion and family values are. The more you relate to a person, the more a person respects you.
4. Attraction
It’s true! Attraction plays a big part. If you are not attracted to an individual, it makes it hard. If you are not attracted to someone, you could care less about them or care less about what you do with them. If you are an attractive individual you are less likely to get approached. Men are afraid to shoot their shot with someone they find attractive.
Being a Pretty Girl is not your fault, it is a blessing because you don’t have to deal with the crappy men in the world who are going to treat you less than you deserve. Being unattainable is a good thing, it protects you from the boys who won’t call you the next morning, or the men who always move on to the next girl. Men know when they see a Pretty Girl, they know they are not an easy catch.
Men know they can’t play the same games or put up the same crap and excuses because Pretty Girls hold these men accountable for their actions. Pretty Girls have high standards and nowadays, a lot of men are not willing to meet those standards. Men want what is accessible because they know they don’t have to get into the emotional crap or ask the questions or go on dates. Men don’t have to put in the effort if they know they don’t have to put in the effort. Meeting a Pretty Girl means putting in the effort, it means going on dates and most importantly, it means meeting their standards and getting into the emotional stuff because that is what a Pretty Girl wants. Pretty Girls don’t want to be part of hook-up culture or be someone one night stand. They want to be treated with respect and be given the opportunity to know a person: the good parts and the bad. That’s what sucks about being a Pretty Girl, most men nowadays are not willing to do that. It sucks, but that’s the truth. But it is better to be a Pretty Girl than someone next notch on the bedpost, or a person who doesn’t get the time nor the effort.
Endnote for the Pretty Girls:
1. Men respect women they can see themselves with. They respect a woman who isn’t easily approachable, or quick to blush when a man calls her pretty or cute.
2. Standards are there for a reason, don’t lower your standards. The reason you have standards is because you don’t want less than you are willing to give.
3. Remember a person who is willing to give you their time, definitely is a person worth talking to. Time is a precious thing, time is the one thing you don’t get back. So make sure this person is worthy of your time.
4. A person who truly likes you will give you effort, if you are not getting effort then unfortunately they don’t like you.