My mom always told me, “When it comes to a sweet-talking boy, take everything he says with a grain of salt.”
In my younger years, I did not quite understand what she was talking about. However, as I got older, I have found that truer words have never been spoken.
Some boys or men out there have honest and good intentions. Some do not, and they can be really good at hiding it by saying all of the right things. (“Baby, you’re the only girl I talk to” …yeah, right.)
Sometimes it can be really hard to decipher whether a new guy in your life is looking for something real or if they are lying to you for their own personal reasons. (Maybe he lacks self-confidence, or he is just horny.)
When the signs are hard to read, there are a few things you should really consider before trusting a sweet-talking guy.
Is he is on his phone a lot when you are together?
This might just be nervous habit, but if he is glued to his phone and smiling at it, he may be texting someone else and not giving you the attention you deserve.
Is he ever mean to you, make fun of you a lot or pick at your insecurities?
If he disrespects you before he even really knows you, you probably don’t want a person like that in your life anyways. For example, he might make fun of your physical appearance, make sure to let you know about that pimple you are trying to hide on your face or tell you that you should change something about your appearance early on in dating.
Does he only want to “Netflix and chill”?
He might just want to hook-up with you. He isn’t putting the effort in to get to know you or impress you. It does not cost much money to make a picnic, take you to dinner, take you to a movie or to go walking downtown.
Did he take you on an overly expensive date before he knew you?
This may be kind of sketchy because he doesn’t know you yet. Why would he drop $100 on a girl he just met? He may be trying to impress you with material things, which either shows a lack of confidence or arrogance. The special and expensive stuff should come later, for anniversaries or birthdays.
Does he only hang out with women, or when you look at who he follows on social media is it all women?
This is the most revealing sign of a player (or at least a guy who tries to be a player). In this day and age, social media is also a way to meet new people. Any normal person follows a pretty even amount of males and females on social media. If a guy follows only women, you know he is trying to hit up quite a few of them. It shows that he is on a mission.
Does he get defensive about his phone?
A man who hides his screen around you, turns his phone screen-side-down when he isn’t using it, or always takes his phone to the bathroom is someone who should not be trusted. No one gets that defensive over their phone without a reason. He may be (and mostly likely is) texting other women or hiding something from you.
No one wants to get their heart broken. Like I said before, some men are genuinely sweet and really do have interest in you. Sometimes character may also be hard to judge (there is that phrase, “love is blind.”)
Like my mom always says, “When it comes to a sweet-talking boy, take everything he says with a grain of salt.” And truer words have never been spoken.