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Confessions of an Extroverted Introvert

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at MSU chapter.


Ever feel like you’re stuck in the middle of being both an extrovert and an introvert? You’re not alone. If you’re like me, you love to socialize, but still crave alone time. If extroversion is a spectrum, we find ourselves in the middle. Here are eight things us so-called ambiverts are known for.


1. We don’t enjoy small talk.

Sure, we can make small talk. But do we enjoy it? Nope. Few things bore us as much as small talk.


2. We have a love/hate relationship with being the center of attention.

At first it’s like, “Wow, I’m amazing, everyone loves me!” Then after a while, it’s like, “Goodness gracious, please find someone else to talk about so I can disappear into the shadows again.”


3. We get bored easily.

No, we don’t have to be constantly moving, but we usually need to have some sort of plan. An empty to-do list doesn’t exist for us. There’s always something we can get done, even if it’s lying in bed reading a book.  


4. We’re great listeners.

Ask us about something we’re interested in and we can talk all day, but if you’re the one who wants to do the talking, we’ll be more than happy to listen.  


5. We have plenty of acquaintances, but only a few best friends.

We’re nice to everyone, but only really open up to a few people. Pleasant as we may be, we dive head-first into relationships and spend most of our time with the same core group of people.


6. We’re indecisive.

God forbid we upset anyone, because that’s certainly the last thing we want to do. Hence why you’ll often hear us saying, “you pick!” when it comes to making a decision. Sometimes, we really don’t care.


7. We change depending on the environment.  

We’re not always loud or always quiet. It really depends on who we’re with and where. At a party full of friends? We’ll be in the center. At a work event where we know nobody? You’ll find us on the outskirts.


8. We want the best of both worlds.

Okay, so how about I go to the bar for like an hour, but then come back, change into sweats and watch Netflix? Sometimes we wish we could have it both ways. Be with friends for a bit, but have some quality time with our bed for the rest of the night.

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