Two months ago, my world was flipped upside down when my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. I have come so far since then and here are the biggest lessons that I learned.
1. I am freaking fantastic.
It is so hard to hear from the person that lit up your world that you are not the person from them. You may go through a stage of self-doubt and that’s okay. The main thing to do is to keep your head up and your mind occupied. You are worth more than words can express and someday you will find the person who will appreciate you.
2. I don’t need a man to prove my self-worth.
It makes me so sad when I see girls jumping from guy to guy. You are such an incredible person and you don’t need anyone else to prove that. Your self worth doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see it. Take time to find out what your goals and aspirations are in life. Your happiness is the most important thing!
3. Time alone is a good thing.
Sometimes in a relationship you get so caught up in being with your significant other as much as possible. You lose track of things you are passionate about and give up so much time for that person. Take advantage of being on your own. Take the night off, take a bath, watch a movie, read a book, just take care of yourself.
4. He wasn’t the one.
This is the hardest lesson I had to learn. It took me weeks to come to terms with this one, because I was convinced we were meant to be together forever. But you know what? It’s okay that it didn’t work out.. It’s okay to not find your soul-mate at 16, 18, 20, or even 22! Do not settle for anything less than you deserve. You should never feel like you have to have to lower your standards for your significant other.
5. Someday I will find my soul-mate.
This is something I am working on remembering every single day. It’s okay to be single at 20 because someday someone will walk into your life and change everything. There is no need to rush into relationships and force yourself to fake forever.
6. Patience is key.
You may not be better in a day, you may not be better in a week and you might not even be better in a month. The biggest thing I learned is that you have to set attainable goals for yourself. Find small things each day to conquer. Life will seem pretty difficult for a while, but it will get so much better. Believe in yourself!
The main thing I took away from this experience is that I am capable of so much. The day he ended our relationship I felt like nothing mattered anymore. I felt like I couldn’t get out of the bed in the morning or eat anything. Each day I tried to accomplish something small and after two months I am amazed at what I accomplished. Keep your head up and never forget your self-worth! Remember the wise words of Marilyn Monroe, “a girl doesn’t need anyone who doesn’t need her.”