7 Surefire Ways to Improve Your Self-Confidence

Confidence is key in life, and there is always room for improvement in this area. It’s important to love and believe in yourself, not letting what is happening in your life determine how you feel.

Check out these surefire ways to improve self-confidence today!


1. Stop checking social media just to see who’s “liking” and commenting on your photos.

A person’s self-worth is not defined by how “popular” they are on social media. Why do people get so excited when their Instagram posts get 100 likes? Nothing about your life really changes in this situation. You just think, “Oh hey, that guy from my literature class thinks I’m sexy and so do 99 other people. Heck yeah!” And vice versa… Why are people sad when no one favorites their semi-interesting tweet? Social media is an unusual beast. It’s great for communicating with people when you’re apart from one another and sharing significant life updates. Yet, some people become so invested in how much attention their posts receive, and that’s actually very unhealthy. So, forget the hype and stop checking all of your accounts after you post your latest sexy selfie. If you think it looks good, that’s all that matters. Other people will actually probably forget about it within a few hours.  


2. Stop comparing your body to others.

If a woman had the option to switch bodies with Miranda Kerr or Kate Upton, would that improve her self-esteem? It might, but self-esteem is not a total reflection upon outward appearance, it comes from the inside. Even people who look very physically attractive have insecurities. When you’re at the gym, there’s always that one chick who’s all dolled up in workout clothes, and she looks like she spends every day there. There is something she doesn’t like about herself. Don’t compare yourself to her because you are beautiful and unique in your own way. Outside influences like comparing yourself to others will generally make you feel insecure. Why? You’re unlike anyone else, therefore, incomparable. And that’s the beauty of life.


3. Develop a sense of fashion.

Yes, outward appearance is separate from self-worth, but they are related. Dressing well and putting effort into your appearance will make you feel good about yourself. When a woman takes care of herself by washing her face every day, puts on clothes that fit her well, and develops her own sense of style, this is positive. She is being proactive in treating herself and her body with respect. You deserve to feel like you look good. So, dress well for yourself- not for the guys on campus or anyone you’re trying to impress. Inner beauty above outer beauty, every day!


4. Don’t skip class.

Most college students--even the over-achievers--are guilty of skipping class at least once. Speaking of guilt, when students do this, they often feel guilty afterwards. Then, their self-confidence dwindles all day. At first, they think, “I don’t care.” After there’s no going back, they regret it. Overall, skipping class is not good for anyone to do, not only for missing important material, but for how you feel about yourself. Ignore the urge!


5. Know that your relationship status doesn’t define you.

The majority of single college girls don’t want to be single. In general, most people who are not in relationships would like to go on more dates. And, sometimes when people are in between relationships or getting over someone, they equate this situation with their identity and put stress on meeting the right person by a certain time. A lot of young women have an internal fear of what their love life will be like in the future. Even if a woman is in a relationship, she might wonder, “What if my guy isn’t the one?” Why is the clock ticking in your early twenties? The best way to overcome the pressure you’re putting on yourself is to simply embrace your status--single or not. Love it. Live it. Guys are attracted to happy women who are comfortable in themselves. The right guy will come along at the right time. Besides, you can’t put a timer on finding genuinely true love. (Cliché, but true.)


6. Let it out. Talk to someone.

When people hold negative emotions inside themselves and don’t express them to anyone, chances are that they will only build up and become worse. Sometimes it’s challenging to be away from home in college, and not connect with roommates or other students on campus. During these lonely times, finding a trustable friend, family member, or campus leader is important. If you have a best friend from before college, schedule a Skype date with them and talk it out. If you have a close relationship with a parent or sibling, give them a call. Above all, don’t be ashamed to share how you feel. Your self-confidence will blossom because you are creating personal growth by articulating what’s going on inside yourself.


7. Highlight the positive. Overcome the negative.

A person’s mindset determines the outcome of their day. The glass is either half-empty or half-full. The key to life is to be relentlessly positive, but still a realist at the same time. Successful, confident, goal-oriented people have high standards for everything, but expect nothing. The phrase “It’s all good” is totally FALSE. Everything isn’t good. There are awful experiences in life--from heartbreak, to failure, and loss--but accentuating the positive will outweigh the experience itself. See the good in everything, but know that the world isn’t perfect. The outlook of a perfect world doesn’t satisfy anyone because we all know it’s not true. You are always the defining factor in your own thoughts and emotions.