Going through a break-up can be really hard to deal with, but sometimes not being able to get over a guy you never dated can be just as painful. It might seem ridiculous to say this because what’s felt in an actual relationship are really different. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t be equally as hurt as hard by someone who you never actually shared these feelings with.
First, you’re going to need to grieve for a little while. Be sad! You deserve to be. However, you can’t grieve for too long – that’s just unhealthy. The next step is to stop imagining yourself together. Mentally block out all of those things you could have done together or whatever future you saw with them because it’s never going to happen. Fantasising just gets your hopes up.
Also, don’t rely on your friends to help you get over him. They don’t know the situation like you do even if they were with you through it all. Chances are they aren’t going to want to talk about what happened over and over again. Talking about the situation does nothing but give you an excuse to keep them on your mind.
Next, you should probably keep them on social media. This may make no sense, but realistically, the mystery is worse than the truth. You’re better off leaving them on social media and accepting that you may see something you don’t want to. Although you should not de-friend them, you absolutely shoudnt keep purposly look for them.
Finally, stop trying to analyze what went wrong and what you could have done differently because you’ll create 100 scenarios about why he didn’t want to be with you. Chances are that most of your theories are probably wrong . And nothing you could have said or done could have changed his mind. Once you accept that, you’ll finally be over that guy you never actually dated.
Congratulations! You’re finally free.