Ever since I was in high school, I was told that college would be the most exciting time of my life where I would find myself by exploring new places, trying new things, and most importantly making new friends. However, nobody tells you that finding these new people that you will share all these experiences with takes a little longer than one might think. I expected entering my college dorm and instantly making a connection with my roommates that would last forever; they would be my bridesmaids, the aunts to my children and my best friends for life. Although there is some truth to that, it has taken until my senior year to find my people, with a lot of twists and turns along the way.Â
Throughout my years at Manhattan University, I have learned that making friends is more important than just having people to do things with. I have friends that I go out with, friends that I like to chat with, but no matter what we do together, we are always there for each other. Sometimes having different people to do different things with is more optimal because nobody ever had to pull the short straw and compromise on doing something they are not keen on.
In my opinion, the most important thing you can do when trying to make friends or find your people is be true to yourself in every way. Whether you are a little bit goofy, a homebody or a certified party girl, staying authentic will attract those who appreciate you for you! Although you may not all have the same interests or agree upon every little thing, sharing your passions and personalities with each other is something special that will bring you closer and help you learn new things about each other. Similarly, by taking part in new activities together, you can find even more people to add to your circle.
As someone who grew up having trouble keeping friends while moving schools and participating in sports, I truly cherish the people I have grown to know and love at college. I have made so many memories that I will never forget and experienced things I never thought I would, just because I agreed to do something new with a friend. I hope we never stay in each other’s lives forever, because they are some of the most amazing people I have ever met.