How I Survived a Four-Year-Relationship Breakup

Recovering from any relationship can be a challenge, but when the relationship is long term, you think it could almost kill you. My boyfriend of four years and I just recently decided to breakup. Although I think it was the right decision for us at the time, it was immensely hard to accept. If it was the right thing to do, how could it hurt so bad? Well, if you’re going through something similar, here are some tips on how to recover.

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  1. Do something reckless and irresponsible. Go buy that makeup product you’ve always wanted but thought it was too expensive. Buy that book that you’ve always wanted to read but never got around to it. Order some Hot Box cookies just for yourself… and eat them all. You can think about getting your revenge body later.

  2. Take a day to yourself and do absolutely nothing. Don’t worry about being productive; everything will get done later. Allow yourself to disconnect from everything and just be with yourself. Make some popcorn, get in some pajamas, and watch a movie. Maybe take a walk if you’re feeling up to it.


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  3. Remember that you lived a good life before they were in it. You survived then and you can now! You are still you, your own individual. You are worth loving and taking care of.

  4. Come to the realization that you probably won’t stop loving him. You were together for so long that you are always going to care for them, but you CAN work towards not being IN love with him anymore. There’s a big difference between loving someone and being in love with them.

  5. Focus on things that make you happy!!! Whether that be your friends, your family, your sorority, painting, dancing, etc., find those things and let them consume your life.

  6. When you finally feel up to going out with your friends again, be a BADASS. Wear something sexy not to impress anyone, but to feel good about yourself. I promise you, your gal pals will support it. Que the red lipstick.

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