February is the month for love, but what about people who are struggling with that right now? So many people seem to get out of relationships at this time, whether its because of the February theory, three month rule, or just because it wasn’t working. However, that comes with baggage and feelings that can be really hard to get over. So, from someone who recently got out of a relationship, here are 5 tips to get over your ex-significant other.
1. Get rid of pictures & reminders
Reminiscing over old pictures, presents, and other reminders will just keep you stuck on your ex. If you really want to get over them get rid of it! I would suggest either throwing it out or putting it in a box like Rory does in Gilmore Girls, and getting it out of your life.
I also think cutting contact on social media and messages would help get rid of reminders of them, and would also keep you from the temptation of contacting them.
2. Make a pros & Cons List
Making a pros and cons list, or even a red flag list when you’re missing them could be super helpful in reminding you why you guys broke up in the first place. Even though relationships go two ways, thinking back to things that upset you about them can be helpful in getting over them.
From personal experience, this tip is SUPER helpful, and reminds me why we didn’t work out whenever I miss him or the relationship.
3. Let Your emotions out
Whatever emotions you are feeling are COMPLETELY valid. Whether you’re sad, angry, frustrated, or happy, it’s perfectly okay to express those emotions, and will help you get over them faster.
Most of the time after breakups frustration, anger, and sadness are the most common emotions. So if you need to cry it out, do it! If you’re angry and need to scream, or go to a rage room to let it out to some angry music, do it!
4. Journal/Write Letters
If you are really stuck on your ex, writing letters to them-without sending them of course-or journaling about your feelings could be helpful. Giving yourself closure by writing all of your thoughts out, either towards them or towards yourself would be super useful in getting over your ex faster.
Here are a couple of journal prompts from Silk and Sonder that could help you get over a break up.
5. Go Have fun & live your life
My last tip for you is to get over them, and go have fun! Whether your version of having fun is going out to bars with your friends, or staying in and having movie nights, do it! Getting back into a normal routine can be super helpful with moving on and going on with your life.
Overall, breakups suck, and getting over them are even worse! But, with these tips it could be easier for you to get over it, and your ex!