It’s February and we all know what that means…Valentine’s Day! While some may love this holiday, others may not feel quite the same. No matter how you are feeling, one thing is for certain, and that is that everyone is deserving and worthy of love no matter who you are.
Now, when I say love I am not only talking about romantic love, but platonic love as well. I think this is something that many individuals, including myself, forget about often. Love comes in many different forms such as self love, romantic love, selfless love, obsessive love and so much more.
One love that I have been focusing on more recently is self love. In order to love someone else you need to be able to love yourself first. Showing yourself love can be doing something as simple as taking a relaxing shower or buying yourself coffee. I recently got into journaling, and I absolutely love it. Being able to take time and appreciate the little moments in my life has brought me so much peace.
I am not going to lie, I used to be the biggest Valentine’s Day hater out there. I never understood how so many of my friends had significant others, while I didn’t. Looking back on it, this was such a bad mindset for me to have. I was always jealous of others and was never truly focusing on myself. I was blind to the love that I do have in my life. I have the love of my family, friends, coworkers and even my animals. All love is beautiful and all love matters. Who says your valentine can’t be your pet fish? Go on a date with your friends and appreciate that time with one another.
One thing I have grown to love this holiday season is Galentine’s Day. For those who are unaware, Galentine’s Day is held the day before Valentine’s Day on February 13th. This day is normally held to celebrate the love of friendship. Typically women will get together with their female friends on this day to show support for women, but I truly believe that Galentine’s Day is a day to celebrate all friendships, no matter what gender.
In all honesty, it took me a while to come to the conclusion that I am worthy of love. It is truly a process. There would be times that I would feel guilty simply for being proud of myself for my accomplishments and where I am in life. I know it may be difficult, but don’t feel guilty. Take it all in and celebrate those moments. It is important to remind yourself daily about how amazing you are. One way to practice self love is by saying affirmations. Look into the mirror and say statements such as, “I am strong, I am beautiful, I am worthy of love, etc.” Get into the habit of saying these things and you will really start to believe it and feel it.
Like many others, I am a huge fan of trashy reality TV shows. One of my favorites to watch right now is “Love Is Blind”. As cheesy as this show may be, one thing that I enjoy about it is that I honestly get the message that everyone is worthy of love. The whole concept of “Love Is Blind” is that people need to get to know one another based on their personality before actually meeting face to face. They will have multiple conversations through a wall before the big “reveal.”
There are so many people on the show that have mentioned that the reason they are on the show is because they feel insecure about themselves. These insecurities can be things such as having too much muscle, being short or they just don’t feel the best about the way they appear overall. Despite these insecurities, these people still end up falling in love or finding some kind of connection. All in all, this show just proves that no matter what you may think about yourself, you are still worthy of love and someone out there will give you that love you deserve.
So next time you catch yourself feeling jealous, lonely or just overall not worthy, stop and pause. Remember all of the love you do have in your life. Even if you feel like you don’t have love, remember that you will find that love and you will find those people that are going to bring it to you. Love is a journey. Every single part of you is lovable. Never forget that.