Before you began packing for college he was your everything. You spent an unforgettable summer together. You looked one another in the eyes and promised that this long-distance relationship was going to work out. Back at home being with him was like being stuck in a dream that you couldn’t wake up from.
Now school has begun, and you guys are miles apart. You’re trying to get back in the school mindset and deal with the mini heart attacks you have every time you read the syllabus for all of your classes. Now you’re starting to feel exhausted. You’re up one minute and down the next, questioning what to do or say. You’re even starting to question your own sanity every time he calls or doesn’t call.
Being in college is definitely not easy and being in a long-distance relationship makes it ten times harder.
Now I’m not saying long-distance relationships can’t work because in some cases it does and some even say that it makes their relationship stronger. But it’s something that takes dedication and work.
The main goal of being in college is to grow as an individual, to make long lasting friendships, and to have fun; not to sit in your dorm room upset and frustrated because you wish winter break was here already so you can just see him.
You spend most of your time looking down at your phone to see if you missed a call and to stalk his Instagram page because dare he post a picture having fun or with another girl.
Eventually you guys are going to run on different wavelengths. You don’t want it to be where when he’s fraternity pledging or big exams come up you feel alone because you secluded yourself from everyone else.
You will come to the point where you realize you hadn’t began to establish yourself and everyone around you has and are having the times of their life. You will hold yourself back from building many relationships on campus. It won’t be fair to place all the blame on him because you both agreed to this but taking all your frustration and sadness out on the relationship will put a strain on it that could be harder to fixed.
So, it’s time that you have “the talk” with him and tell him what is really on your mind, then get up out your dorm room and go to an event on campus with your friends. You probably owe them that because I know they are tired of hearing you go on and on about how much you miss him, and what you think he’s doing at school, why he doesn’t always answer your calls, etc.
As Carrie Bradshaw once said “As we drive along this road called life, occasionally a gal will find herself a little lost. And when that happens, I guess she has to let go of the coulda, shoulda, woulda, buckle up and just keep going.”
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