Your best friend stands by you, supports you, motivates you and of course gets into some crazy situations with you. Through the thick and thin, she’s there. However, no matter how close you are, there will always be the days deemed worst by best friends: fighting days. No matter how bad the situation is, it sucks not being able to call your best friend and dish out all the dirty secrets you have, or not being able to do your Sunday homework routine. No coffee meets ups, no main gal to do a night out on the town, nothing.
So how do you get out of that funk? Well, every friendship is different but this general outline will hopefully resonate with most friendships.
1. Give each other some space
This isn’t to make sure the trouble keeps growing but to allow each party to digest everything. This allows everyone to have a clear perspective, but also gives enough time to think of the other person’s perspective as well. 99% of the time we think we are never in the wrong, so with the time allotted to keeping your space, it allows for reflection and the oopportunity to break that mindset.
2. Don’t talk about the problem while it’s fresh
If the problem is still fresh, then chances are so are your emotions. The second you bring your emotions into the discussion then the problem will grow because you will be blurting out things to purposefully hurt the other. This just causes things to escalate more than need be and puts a strain on the friendship.
3. Meet up when both parties are ready
Once things have cooled down and everyone involve is ready to talk about it without feeling pressured, then the conversation will flow easily. Fully listen to what your best friend is telling you. Someone who loves you so much will only get mad at you when you do something big enough for them to put such an amazing friendship on hold. So be open minded to her thoughts and emotions.
4. Hug it out
Even if it’s just been a day, the fight was a day too long. You’re reunited with you friend so show them your love with a big bear hug! Time to catch up and all the small and unnecessary details of my life that no one else would listen to, but you. Thanks best friend, I love you!