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For The Girl Going Through A Breakup

Warning: this article contains various clichés, but as much as you hate to hear them, they’re true.

So the guy or girl you were with just broke up with you? He or she was perfect for you, right? I know you want to go home to your bed and just cry. It will be okay. If it was meant to be, it will be.

You can do one of two things: go on a downward spiral, or, start picking up the pieces and work towards that happiness. You can go, hook up with people, drink and party until you don’t remember your name, or you can go to the gym, get some sunshine, and just have a day to yourself. You can also watch sad movies and read books. All of these are (somewhat) acceptable reactions to your broken heart.

But I refuse to let you think you aren’t good enough. That you’re trash, and worthless. I will not let them let you think so little of yourself. You were fearfully and wonderfully made, by God, for a reason. That reason was not to belittle yourself to nothing because of some stupid person who was too afraid of you and didn’t see the true diamond they had right in front of him. So, let them find rocks, don’t wish harm on him or her. Pray they miss what they had — that is the best form of revenge. Love yourself, and the rest will come. The best revenge is happiness, if he sees you happy without him, it’s game over.

I know they probably acted like a jerk, it’s a typical reaction (that does not justify anything), but they want you to hate them, to make it easier for you to move on (tip for any heartbreakers reading this: Don’t do that). So what if you don’t have anyone to watch your favorite Netflix show with, now you don’t have to wait for you both to be free to watch it! Binge away!

Another cliché: There is someone out there for you, and although it might not have been him or her, they will always be a part of your story. Don’t fight it, don’t try to erase them, because as much as you try, it won’t work. Let them be their stubborn self, and I know you’ll miss the arms that used to make you feel safe, but you don’t need someone to feel safe. It will always be okay in the end; if it’s not okay, it’s not the end. Just remember that.

And now, for the most cliché Bible verse of all, “’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you, and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” Jeremiah 29:11

God won’t lead you anywhere He doesn’t know. He will be there for you in your darkest nights. Those are the arms to feel safe in. You are beautiful, you are strong, and you are going to get through this. Stay strong, because there is so much happiness that is coming your way.        

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