It’s that time of the year again. Time for the holidays. For some this is the best time of year. The pumpkin and peppermint aromas, colorful wrapped gifts, cooler weather and family coming together. But for others it’s the time of the year they dread. Some of us avoid coming back home for the holidays or having to partake in holiday traditions.
Coming back home for the holidays is tough on a lot of us whether I’d be due to family tension, not seeing your family for a while and some of us feel as if though we’re not on the right track or not doing as amazing as your sibling or cousin your same age. Holidays stress many out and can remind some that their family is dysfunctional. No matter what the reason, try to have a positive outlook.
Many of us believe that other families are perfect. Their holidays are filled with laughs, love, fun times, and harmony. But every family is different no matter how it looks on an outsider’s perspective, every family has their kinks and rough patches. No family is perfect. Stay away from comparing your situation to others.
If you’re planning on going back home for the holidays plan to do something you miss from home or really enjoy. Visit your favorite coffee shop, park, or small store that you haven’t been to in a while. Try to plan meeting up with old friends as well. This can help you feel more relaxed and even excited about going back home.
Equally important, during the holidays many of us get so wrapped up in the thought of having to sit through gatherings that don’t ensure everyone will get along we forget the actual holiday. We entirely forget what we’re supposed to be celebrating. Set yourself a little reminder a day or two before the big holiday to remind yourself what you’re celebrating and why it’s important to you and your family. The primary meaning of the holiday might refocus the real feelings for the season, brining back that holiday spirit.
Xoxo,
Rose