I know, the title is a total cliche, but hear me out. When I first came to University of Delaware this fall, I was completely unsure of what the future held. I had already completed a full year of college, but here I was again with another blank slate left in front of me. At the time, it was more intimidating than exciting.
After I left my previous college, I had no idea what I wanted to get involved in. Freshman year, I was that “overly-involved” freshman. You know, the one who you see obnoxiously signing up for 20 clubs at the activities fair to compensate for the pain of being away from home? That was me, circa Fall 2016. My first college experience obviously didn’t work out, so I was left with the same dilemma my sophomore year.
Freshman year, I rushed spring semester but ended up dropping the process because I found out I got accepted into University of Delaware. Besides, I didn’t see myself as a sorority girl. I didn’t think I could fit into the “mold,” and I had already gone to an all-girls school my entire life. I could only handle so much estrogen. Even though my mom had been in a sorority that eventually led her to meeting her best friends and ultimately my dad, I was a total cynic. Why would I pay money for friends and letters?
However, I am so glad I changed my mind when I came to University of Delaware. My sisters were some of the first people I met when I came to campus, and the best decision I made this year was throwing caution to the wind and going to their events. At these events, I was able to find like-minded people who shared my values and interests: going on adventures, focusing on school, finding genuine friendships and most importantly, “doing good.”
What changed my mind was the pure kindness and openness I saw in our chapter. There I was, an emotionally-distressed transfer student, and for the first time since I graduated from high school, someone was able to see me as I truly was. I didn’t used to buy into the concept of “finding a home” in the Greek community, but I absolutely believe in it now. My big and g-big are two of the most amazing friends I have made in college, and I cannot imagine conquering these years without them.
Being in a sorority is so much more than just wearing letters, or taking cute Instagram pictures. It is about having a community that backs you up and stands behind you through the good, the bad and the ugly. It is an opportunity to expand your worldview through giving back. It has been a source of confidence for me, and has made me comfortable talking to anyone. What I love so much about being in our chapter is that I have come to know all kinds of women from all walks of life. Not to mention, our events with other organizations have actually made it easier for me to hang out with both guys and girls.
So, whether you’re an incoming freshman, a transfer or a returning upperclassman who is looking to get more involved, consider the opportunity even if you think it isn’t for you at first. I never thought I would be a “sis” of anything, but I am so glad I “amma!”