In Rupi Kaur’s, New York Times Best Selling book, Milk and Honey topics about love, separation, coping, rape, and the power of the female were all discussed. The purpose was to “take readers through a journey of the most bitter moments in life and find sweetness in them,” as she stated in her book. Though not every poem speaks to the reader, many stories can relate to the everyday woman, or person.
The topic of rape was heavily focused on in the beginning chapter of her novel. Not to discredit her or the incredible work presented in this book, but how can one find sweetness in the act of rape?
Being a female on a college campus that is 53% men and knowing that 1 in 5 women are sexually assaulted while in college, making sure I am not put in situations where I could be victimized weighs heavy on my mind. Even though attending one of the safest college campuses in the country.
calms some of the nerves, it is something that lurks in the back of my mind. With that, ladies here are a few ways to avoid getting caught in a traumatic situation like this:
1: Never walk by yourself at night!
Walking by yourself can be dangerous at anytime of the day, but you should be extra cautious at night. Call your friend and ask them to walk with you. Don’t be afraid that you are bothering them; if they are a true friend they will care about your safety as well.
2: Get your own drinks
If you are at a party never trust anyone to get your drink for you. You never know what someone’s intentions could be. Get your own drink and if you sit yours down somewhere get a new one.
3: Don’t stay at someone’s house if you do not know them
I know college life can get hectic and staying where you are is definitely safer than trying to drive while under certain conditions. However, if you don’t know where you are don’t stay. Call a friend to come get you so they can take you home or you can crash at their place.
4: Don’t stay if you don’t feel comfortable
This should go without saying, but if the situation seems a little shady leave. Put your safety above all else. Your life matters.
Even though people, females especially, can try to keep themselves from being sexual assaulted, it cannot always be avoided. ALWAYS remember you did not ask for it because of the clothes decided you wear, the makeup on your face, or your body language. If you or someone you know is a victim of rape, know that it is not your/their fault. Never place blame on the victim; blaming the victim is not only unacceptable but it can make them more insecure and distraught about the situation.
Rupi Kaur’s, Milk and Honey, started the conversation. However, it is far from over. Waiting until it happens to you or someone you know is part of the problem. We need to continue the conversation to bring an end to this epidemic.