November is one of those months that feels in between, it’s not quite the holidays yet, but it’s the calm before the storm, a.k.a. finals and chaos. It’s the perfect time to practice slowing down, breathing, and stepping into your soft girl era, the version of you that should be prioritizing your peace over the pressure of the world, calm over chaos, and healing over constant hustling.
We glorify being the “it girls” who juggle classes, internships, a job, and social plans without breaking a sweat. But what about being the girl who disappears for one weekend just to regain her peace? What about being the girl who protects her energy like it’s her personal wealth? There’s power in being gentle with yourself, especially in a world that confuses burnout with being successful.
The air is cooler outside, the days are shorter, and everyone on campus is either overworked or very overstimulated. November doesn’t have to drain you – you can use this time to center yourself. “Soft Girl Season” isn’t about being lazy or ignoring your daily tasks; it’s about giving yourself permission to rest and to move through your days with more intention.
Defining Soft Girl Season
The “soft girl” mindset is more than a TikTok aesthetic – it should be a lifestyle that is rooted in peace, femininity, and being aware of your emotions. It’s saying no when you need to. It’s doing your skincare with your favorite songs in the background. It’s skipping the party to recharge your social battery. This month, I want us to focus on protecting our mental health and energy before finals and the holiday chaos.
This should be your personal vacation, minus the flight expenses and hotel.
How to Protect Your Peace in November
- Create personal/cozy boundaries: Don’t let everyone have access to your energy. It’s okay to say no and be “booked and busy” taking the time to rest.
- Romanticize your routines: Light candles after a long shower, drink tea, journal, and play your favorite R&B songs – make your space feel pretty.
- Say no with grace: You don’t owe everyone your personal time. Protecting your peace is your power; you are entitled to it.
- Limit social media: Not everything needs to be shared or even compared – learn how to live quietly for a while.
Why This Matters
As young women in college, we’re conditioned to the nonstop grind culture. Being soft doesn’t equal being weak – it means being intentional with yourself. By choosing to rest and reflect, you’re able to enter the holidays feeling refreshed, not burnt out. You start the next semester already feeling renewed.
Closing Thoughts
So, as we’re entering a brand new month, let yourself exist gently. Be the girl who glows quietly, who rests unapologetically, and who refuses to let the chaos of the world steal her calm. Because real peace – real lasting peace – is the ultimate luxury we can have. During this season, it’s one that you owe to yourself.