Dear Abby,
Over the summer, I met a this great guy at my internship. It was like we were instantly best friends. Towards the end of the summer, it became something more and got serious really quickly. Suddenly, it was time to go back to school. Long-distance sucks, so we decided to break up and take this year to have fun with our friends, but I really miss him, and we still talk all the time. I think I want to visit him, but I feel like if we see each other, we’ll just get back together. He’s graduating this year and he’s probably going to graduate school across the country. I still have a year left. What do I do? Should I just try to forget about him?
Sincerely,
Heartsick in Harris
Dear Heartsick in Harris,
You got to experience one of those amazing summer relationships that just refuses to fizzle. We’re all jealous of you, you know. But I understand what you’re going through. Many couples will deal with the should-we-break-up-or-not dilemma this year, as one or both of them prepare to graduate and face the real-world (terrifying). My advice is: go visit him if you want to. Why punish yourself for feeling this way? You never know what will happen. You can talk about your status when you’re there with him, where you’ll be in a totally different context from the one in which you met each other. Maybe it won’t be the same. If it is, why not give it a shot? If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work, but choosing not to try something for fear of it not working might be selling yourself short.
Safe travels!
Abby