Hello Readers
Today, my article is going to talk about the fact that something is seriously wrong with our society. I have three stories where if people stopped beating around the bush, I would have hours of my life back.
The first story is dealing with family members. As many of you know, I went to London earlier this year and doing so I bought my immediate family gifts or souvenirs from London. I ended up giving someone else’s gift to their mother thinking that they would give it to their kid the next time they saw them. Instead of that happening, my mother reached their kid first and asked if they had gotten their gift for London. They surprisingly said they didn’t even know they got a gift from London. My mother the goes to the child’s mother and asked where the gift went. Instead of telling her the truth, they instead said that they got the gift and loved it. At this time, they did not know that we were literally talking to their child at the same time. Her child then chimed in and said,” what gift are you talking about?” Seeing that they had been caught, they then said oh I didn’t know you meant my kid, i thought you meant my other family member. Mind you, four separate people told them that the gift was for their kid. Once I found this out, I was furious and rightfully so. Going on this London trip was a once in a lifetime experience and they took away the only things that their own kid would have had. Then I also tried to lie to my mother’s face about it. Now, their kid is a grown up, so they weren’t super upset, but they were hurt by how upset I was hurt. Moral of this story is tell the truth from the start and don’t beat around the bush.
The next story is with someone who I was talking to romantically. One day, we went out and got a bunch of drinks and snacks for this movie knight we were planning. Since we had planned to have it at his house, we left all the snacks and drinks over there. The day finally arrives, and he calls me and asks me what I want to drink. I say something along the lines of the drinks I bought for tonight. He keeps asking me if I want any other flavors and if I want something other than what I had bought. He does this for about five minutes, and I eventually blow up and say,” I want the drinks I bought.” He then tells me, “Well, my mom actually drank all of one of the pops you bought.” Pop is cheap. I would have been willing to go to the gas station and buy a tow litter but instead, he tried to beat around the bush and tried to find a loophole. Why? His mom was this sweet lady, and she asked me if she could have some, so I was not upset finding this information out, but instead he tried to lie about it, and this gave me very bad vibes if I was to get into a relationship with him. Moral of the story, do not beat around the bush and tell the truth from the start.
The third story, working with people. When you have to work with people you find out what their communication style is and if they are actually good at communicating. As a team you have to figure things out and execute them together. In this team, we had to create a series of events. Some people volunteered to do things; others just did what they normally do. The week shows up where it’s time to execute and someone volunteers to do one of my jobs which I was very happy with. We got a message for that exact thing they said they would do for me. I texted them two days consecutively and they did not respond until the day something went wrong. They did not respond to me at all, and I just threw something together so that there would be people at this execution. Instead, we all get another message about my job, not direct at all, about how there are issues in what I did. I was open and honest about how I threw it together extremely quickly because I was not sure what was going on. I even apologized. The person who I asked, two days consecutively, then responds to this. All of this could have been avoided if number one, people were okay with being direct with who they needed work from and two, communicating was not hard between us. They did take the blame, but it still frustrated me that this group of people has such a hard time being direct and honest. Moral of the story is to communicate, and pleas for crying out loud, do not beat around the bush.
This is something that has been bothering me and maybe it is I who does not get it, but because this has angered me so much, I thought I could ask you readers. Why do people beat around the bush so much in our world rather than being direct?