"Trust the Process"

Everyone says that when you find the right fit for you “you will just know,” and to “trust the process,” but, as a potential new member, I had no idea what this meant. What will the right sorority “feel” like? What will it sound like? What will it offer? Who will it contain? 

I had no idea going into rush what sorority I wanted to be a part of. I found that this is one of the best ways to go into things. Give each group that you meet an equal chance, but don’t be afraid to start checking some off in your head. 

But where to start? I started by thinking about who I knew it in each group. What kind of people were they? Were they creative, outgoing, reserved, into music? Did they like going out a lot, or did they do a lot of volunteering? I think this is the best way to start looking at groups. You will want to find somewhere that you have a lot in common with the members, this way you will mesh right away. Having similar interests is what narrowed my search, but that does not mean you should choose the group you know the most people in or have all the same interests with.

The next thing I looked for was conversations I felt most comfortable in. I want to be around people that are easy to talk to. This could be because you have similar interests or just because you just “click.” Either way, you should look for a group that you feel most comfortable with.

After that is the “just knowing” part. I felt so bad because all of rush I found myself “just knowing,” but a lot of my friends struggled. But good news, we all found our place and are more than happy with our decisions. What we found is that sometimes you won’t “just know” until later on, but you have to take a chance in places that you have interest in. 

The thing about being a part of a group is that they will make you feel welcome no matter where you choose. Believe it or not, they will want YOU more than you may want them at first. They have been searching for you for months and are so excited to get to know you. So take a deep breath because it really does all just work out if you trust the process. No matter where you go, you will be in great hands.