When was the last time you paused?
I mean, really paused.
Don’t remember? No issues, I got you. Come do this with me.
It might seem awkward, and probably uneasy. Why is this randoms stranger on the internet asking me to pause my day? I have so much work, so many classes. This is so weird.
But don’t you think despite the urge to not do it, you might need it?
So hey, how about this – let’s pause together?
I won’t ask you to do much. Just to put your phone away for 15 minutes. Shut all tabs except this. Lock your door. And really just ground yourself in your own energy. Find your centre and focus on yourself.
I will only ask you to think about yourself. What makes you who you are?
Now easy, why don’t we list together a list, non-exhaustive, of things that make each of us happy.
I’ll go first.
- Healthy but GOOD yummy food
- Laughing till my tummy hurts and I tear up
- Long drives
- Sitting by the waves
- Talking to my best friends/meeting them and having so much to catch up on
- The feeling I get when someone compliments my writing
- Dancing in the waves and screaming to songs with earphones in
- Late night deep conversations or even late nights to myself listening to old songs
- Watching shows and movies, obsessively overanalysing them, finding massive relatability in the characters
- Playing with small babies and puppies
- Being productive and achieving a short-term goal, or even a long term one
- Imagining fake scenarios in my head about my future which I can only hope I fulfil
- Conspiracy theories
- When someone puts their head on my shoulder
- Horror stories
- Looking at old pictures on my phone and in albums
- My family
- Taking time out for myself to do anything I want
- Smelling an old scent or listening to an old song which reminds me of a simpler and much more wholesome time, bittersweet but always worth it
- Cold coconut water
- Buffet breakfast spreads
- Smell of coffee and cold coffee itself
- Aesthetic looking rooms and anything pastel or black
- Hoop earrings and rings
- Doing my nails
- Doing my own and someone else’s make up and skincare
- Giving advice and helping someone out, being their emotional support and helping them overcome something
- Shopping
- Tiny baby clothes and shoes in clothing stores
- Gifts which are heartfelt and remind me of someone and a specific experience or memory with them
- Museums
- Dance parties where I can forget everything and just vibe in disco lights and go crazy, forgetting about all my insecurities
- Heels but comfortable heels
- Cuddling/long tight hugs
- Getting to hear what someone thinks about you from someone
- Sharing memes with all my friends
- Dressing up and realising I feel like the sexiest girl alive
- Being alone at home sometimes
- Stalking MBTI posts (I’m an INFJ!)
- Being the inspiration/muse of someone else’s art/poetry/writing
- SWINGS
- Trips with my favourite people
- Reading a book I can’t put down
- Crying at the end of a horribly tiring exhausting day and having someone I trust there to tell me it’s okay to cry and be open about what a mess I am
- The idea of falling in love with my soulmate
- Finding stories in strangers on the road
- Having conversations about the meaning of life with someone
- Dark academia and angel-core aesthetics
- Pink and purple
- Dolling up on a day I feel disgusting about myself
- Long walks with someone whose company I enjoy
- ASMR
- Journal entries
- Constructive criticism from my friends who mean well
- Realising how far I have come when it comes to the kind of person I was and the kind of person I have become
- Singing
- Full body massages
- Hot bathes/showers
- Silly little flirting for the sake of it
- Preparing for bed after a hot shower
Now you go!
Thank you so much for pausing with me. I hope you do it more often. I hope you treat yourself to your favourite food today.
Take care, yeah?