We’ve all been there: having such a close friendship with somone and within what seems like seconds, you go to complete strangers. It’s unfortunate, but what I have started to learn is that it’s just inevitable with some people. You will make friends that will stay in your life forever and then you will make friends that aren’t meant to stay.
You start off by meeting a new friend and really hitting it off. You start hanging out together and soon she’s your go-to girl. She’s the one you do everything with, text when something happends (or you just feel the need to update them about your day), and tell them about your entire life.
Everything is just great and then things get bumpy. This is the point where you will know if this friend will be a lifelong friend or a friend intended to go. There will be a bump in the road, it could be something one of you did, said, didn’t do, or didn’t say. This period may last a while and may go back and forth. You might talk it out and nothing changes or it happens again.
Then you hit the real hurdle, the final straw. This could be a slow gradual exit from each others lives or a huge explosion of drama and emotion. There’s emotions flying everywhere and you find yourself talking about the whole situation constantly.
Eventually everything settles though, and you exit each others lives. And you start the process all over agian. I’ve found that this cycle is just inevitable, if they aren’t meant to be in your life there is nothing you can do to make them stay. But, what my biggest frustration about this cycle is after it’s all over and everything is settled.
You see your old friend somewhere and it’s like you are complete strangers and compete to see who can act like care the least. Do we all really need to be this way though? It’s over and in the past. We can’t change what happened. But, what we do know is that before the explosion there were a lot of good times and memories. Why can’t we just accept that the friendship didn’t work out, but still respect each other and the past? Say a friendly hello? Instead of acting like complete strangers and ruining the good memories that we do still have.
The friendship cycle is inevitable and it hurts. But it’s worth it to find those few friends that we’re made to stay forever.