Often times we get caught up with the stress of school and our problems throughout the week, allowing negative feelings to take over. We can be so consumed by our bad moods that we end up finding an issue with everything we encounter. Once we sink into this negativity, it can be extremely hard to pull ourselves out of it—or to even realize how greatly it is impacting us.
Negative emotions and feelings can completely ruin plans and days that could have been amazing! It is especially important to not let your negative emotions affect your personal relationships. Attitudes are contagious, and can latch on to everyone around you. The people in your life are so important and relationships are fragile. Negativity in any form can hurt relationships because it is hard to be around people that bring others down. Fights can break out from the unbalanced emotions, and it may be hard to relate to each other.
Negativity does not only ruin current relationships, but also the possibility of future relationships. We as humans seek positivity and hope, and are attracted to those who posses these attributes. This is why I tell all of my single friends that if they want to be in a relationship, they need to take care of themselves first. If you take care of yourself, you are happier with who you are, worrying less about being in a relationship, and drawing more people in at the same time. It works the same with friendships! You will attract friends and people that want to hang out with you once you are happy with where you are at in life.
If you are constantly complaining and sad about things going on in your life, people will only be able to console you for so long. My friend went through a terrible break up at the end of the summer, and was very hurt and upset over how it ended. It changed her into someone I had never met before, and someone once known for being so positive and funny turned into a dark cloud friends started avoiding. One day I was very straight with her and said she needed to pull it together and start doing things that make her feel whole again. I told her that she needed to be kind to herself, and pretty much force herself to be more positive. She needed to stop complaining in general. If you stop saying things out loud, you will eventually train yourself to stop thinking them as well.
She took my advice seriously and transformed into a more pleasant person over night. Each day her attitude improved more and more. She started going out again and laughing with friends. About a week after we had this conversation, she started noticing different guys approaching her and friends calling to hang out again. This is not a coincidence!
It is so simple to lead a more healthy and positive life. You have total control over how you react to people and situations. It takes work at first because you have to keep reminding yourself of positivity and changing perceptions, but after a while, it will start to become natural. Just train yourself to see the good in everything and to always be understanding. Notice the little things, and take time to appreciate what you have around you.
Ever since I made positivity and healthy relationships a focus in my life, I have noticed that I have become a more happy person. The more I think about changing my attitude, the easier it is to snap out of my bad moods. I can now rationally pull myself out of unnecessary feelings.
Try to work on your positivity in all aspects of life. This may include keeping negative comments and opinions to yourself, in the hopes of erasing them all together. You may need to work out more and focus on your healthy lifestyle. Try to be self-aware, and notice when you are falling into a negative hole. Ultimately, just remember how great you are. Assure yourself that everybody goes through hard times, and you are never alone.
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