It has slowing become the social norm that “being alone” is sad. But actually, being alone is not necessarily a bad thing, it should be a skill and mindset that everyone should learn how to be conformable in. Especially in college there is no real social consistency, your friends and relationships will change and there will be times when you are alone, it is just inevitable and part of the experience.
That’s why these few years of your life are the perfect time to embrace doing things alone and learn how to be comfortable with it, there is no reason to be sad during this time because it won’t last forever, so you might as well learn to enjoy it! Here are a few reasons why doing things by yourself isn’t so bad after all.
Personally, I believe that the most important thing about being alone is that you get to know yourself so much better! People come and go, so get comfortable with being in your own company. This is vital in loving yourself, you are the only consistent thing in your life so learn to understand that you are good enough all by yourself!
People tend to stay home when faced with doing things by themselves, but when you go out alone you are giving yourself the opportunity to meet people with the same interests as you, and that is a perfect foundation to lifelong friendships! There are so many benefits to doing things alone as well. Being alone allows you to be so much more productive then if you have others around you and it also allows you to move at your own pace. Also, when you are not around other people or your friends, you get a nice break from falling into the trap of wanting to please others and looking for validation. Take this opportunity as a time to learn to be an observer and learn more about your surrounding and the people in it.
During these times learn to be okay when loneliness strikes because the fear of being alone can lead to added anxiety to your already stressful schedule so learn how to start having a peace of mind about it! It takes time to become comfortable with this but take it step by step! Start out going to a coffee shop or a club meeting on campus that you thought was interesting that none of your friends wanted to go to. Each time will become easier and will make you feel like a boss!