I used to do this. I would tell everyone around me that I was busy just to give a quick reason as to why I couldn’t do something asked of me, or worse, to sound important. But after five long years in university, many new role models, countless self-reflections, and an epiphany later, I’ve come to realize two things.
First, being “busy” (having a back-to-back packed schedule) is not necessarily a good thing.
Second, there is no such thing as being busy.
A wise therapist once explained that humans cannot be busy, because that is simply not a true state of existence. One cannot be “too busy” to do something; instead, one is prioritizing tasks, wants and needs in a well-defined order of completion. This means that we are choosing not to do one thing, in order to do something else. Just like how I didn’t go to yoga class this past Sunday morning, so that I could sleep in an extra two hours.
That’s enough philosophy for today. Now that we know that there is no such thing as being busy, here are five reasons why you should aim to take the word out of your vocabulary.
1. It’ll create a good, honest habit
Well, if you can’t use the word busy, what else can you say but the truth. And then everyone you talk to will be updated on what you’re truly working on in life, and will most likely support you in your endeavours. This will make them see you in a better, positive light.
2. You’ll take on better opportunities
Now that you are no longer busy, you are choosing to do one task over another. This means that you’ll need to reflect on each opportunity you are offered, and choose the best one(s) for yourself. A little bit of self-reflection goes a long way, as it will help you make better decisions as to what kind of work opportunities you’ll be taking on in the future.
3. You’ll be offered more opportunities
People tend to stray away from offering opportunities to others who say they are too busy. The more you say yes to opportunities (or the more you explain specific opportunities you are looking for) the more people will suggest new opportunities to you, such as attending an event they know you’ll enjoy.
4. Your friends, family and coworkers will appreciate it
Raise your hand if you enjoy hearing that your friend is too busy to eat dinner with you.
If you raised your hand, you’re a very kind and understanding friend.
By taking the word busy out of your vocabulary, the people in your life will no longer hear that unexisting word as an excuse as to why you can’t do something. They will, however, hear the truth (see point one).
5. You’ll help take the first step towards cultural change
Today’s North American culture encourages being continuously busy, even when this is an unreal, unideal state of existence. It’s up to each and every one of us to inspire change, share the truth about “busy” culture, and encourage the use of better vocabulary options.
Now that you know why you should take the word busy out of your vocabulary, test yourself by trying not to use the word for a week. Next, a month. Then, a year. Lastly, for life. Good luck!
Tip: Don’t get discouraged if you miss your goal and do use the word. Instead, accept that it happened, assure yourself that it is okay to make mistakes, and try again!