How to Get Over a Broken Heart

Having your heart broken is a tough emotional experience and it is probably one of the hardest things a person could go through. Going through a breakup can feel as though you are mourning the death of a loved one. Nothing can prepare you for one and it can feel like there’s no end to the pain, but there is, trust me. Here are some small messages I would like to share from my experience.

Accept That the Relationship Ended

I recently got broken up with and the most challenging part was accepting that the relationship ended. Whether you saw the breakup coming or didn’t, it can still be hard to fully accept it. The first phase of a breakup is usually denial. Going from talking to someone on a daily basis to becoming complete strangers is a difficult transition to make. The first step of getting over a broken heart is spending time offline and being present with your feelings. After getting closure from the breakup, it is important to not check up on what they’re doing or look at old pictures of them. While letting go is hard, it’s important to not live in the past. Giving in to all the emotions you feel, no matter how painful, is a critical part of moving on.

Give Yourself Time to Move On

No one can determine how long it will take to get over a breakup, but it is important to give yourself time to heal. Time brings a lot of clarity whether that means you realize you deserve better and the breakup was beneficial or if that means you realize you want them back. While breakups usually signify staying separated for the foreseeable future, taking a break simply means spending some time apart. Both can be equally as challenging and painful to go through. However, it is important to know when to be patient and wait for someone and when it’s time to move on. Most people define a break anywhere from one week to three months. Any time that is greater than a season is usually defined as a breakup. When you experience a breakup or break in a relationship, it is important to give yourself all the time you need to emotionally recover.

Realize You’re Not Alone

The first couple of days after I got broken up with I stayed in my bed practically all day long or inside my bathroom throwing up. I was in so much pain I could barely eat and many moments left me feeling nauseous. I thought feeling that amount of pain and heartbreak would last forever, but it didn’t. What helped me get out of my depression the most was spending little time at my house. Instead, I hung out with my friends and spent time outdoors. Going through a breakup can feel lonely, but remember that there are people out there to support and help you through this stage of your life.

What is Best is Still to Come

I strongly believe that everything in life happens for a reason. While you might not see the reason at the moment, clarity will come. If that person is meant to come back in your life, then they will. Like the old saying goes, “if you love someone, let them go and if they love you, they will come back.” Realize your worth and do not let the aftermath of a breakup affect how you love and what you have to offer. Do not let someone have that power over you. Someone better will walk into your life and give you what you truly deserve. In the meantime focus on yourself and take time to heal.

 

 

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