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Romanticizing College Doesn’t Mean Having a Perfect College Experience: Letter to My Younger Self

Mya James Student Contributor, Bowie State University
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Bowie State chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

Dear high school senior me,

I know what you probably think college will be like.

You’ve seen social media, movies, and TV shows romanticizing college: late-night

adventures, football games, parties, and perfect dorm rooms.

Romanticizing college life doesn’t mean having a perfect college life.

College life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. You may have 8 a.m. classes, homesickness,

difficult assignments, or days when you don’t want to leave your dorm, let alone your bed.

That’s okay!

Romanticizing college life doesn’t mean ignoring the bad days.

“The challenging days of my existence may or may not be bright and promising.

Stormy or sunny days, glorious or lonely nights, I maintain an attitude of

gratitude.” – Maya Angelou

Romanticizing is a trend where people treat their everyday lives like a beautiful story.

But that doesn’t mean you ignore your bad days or think you won’t have them at all.

Let yourself have bad days. You can find small ways to romanticize a bad day, like journaling after a long, hard day. What made my day so bad? What can I do tomorrow to make tomorrow better?

How do I romanticize my college life at BSU?

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others.

Social media makes it seem like in college you will make ten best friends, find the perfect relationship, and have a perfect social life. Meanwhile, you’re in your dorm wondering, “What’s the move?” “Am I doing enough?”Everyone’s college experience is different, and no experience is automatically better than another. Everyone has their own path.

Make Parts of Bowie State University Meaningful.

Take random trips around Bowie, sit outside and people-watch, study in the library, go to campus events!

You don’t have to wait for a big event to make memories. If you stop waiting for life to happen to you, you will be able to romanticize the college experience.

Document the Little Things.

Keep a scrapbook. Start a junk journal. Take pictures!

Years from now, you won’t remember who sat next to you in your history class or who

your math professor was. You will remember how you felt.

So, remember:

Let yourself have bad days.

Romanticizing your life doesn’t mean ignoring the hard parts; it means finding one small thing that makes a hard day easier.

Love, your future self,

Mya James

Bowie State '29

I am a sophomore psychology major at Bowie State University. I am originally from Oklahoma, but I moved to Maryland to continue my education and experience life at an HBCU. My interest in psychology comes from my desire to better understand people, emotions, and the different experiences that shape a person’s mental health. After earning my bachelor’s degree, I plan to pursue a master’s degree in mental health counseling and build a career helping children and young adults.

In addition to my education, I have gained professional experience in customer service and health and wellness. I have also completed Crisis Text Line training, which strengthened my communication skills and expanded my understanding of how to support people during difficult moments. I value giving back to others and have participated in community service through my church, including events that provide food and assistance to people experiencing homelessness. These experiences have helped me become more compassionate, patient, and committed to making a positive difference in my community.

As a member of the Her Campus at Bowie State editorial team, I enjoy writing honest and relatable articles about college life, mental health, personal growth, beauty, relationships, and self-care. I hope my writing encourages other young women to feel understood and reminds them that they are not alone in what they experience. Outside of school and writing, I enjoy listening to music, exploring beauty and skincare, working out, journaling, spending time with friends and family, and discovering simple ways to romanticize everyday life. I believe that even during stressful seasons, small moments of joy can make life feel more meaningful.