It has been almost a year since I ended my two-year-long relationship, and I have learned so much since then. If you’re considering breaking up with your partner, newly single, or not into the modern dating scene, here’s how to thrive while being single!
Step 1: Friendship
The key to being single is having platonic connections and friendships. Without my friends, my life would feel meaningless. They keep me sane, support me, and spend time with me the same way I would with a partner. I know making friends can be hard, but I assure you, most people want new connections too; they’re just afraid to make the first move.
Step 2: Hobbies
Without my numerous hobbies, I would be incredibly bored and might even consider getting into a relationship. But if I’m being honest, that is not what I want right now. Hobbies are a great way to meet new people and learn new things about yourself! Pick up a new craft, learn how to sew, bake sourdough if it really comes down to it, because hobbies are literal life savers.
Step 3: Stay Active
Moving your body can not only help with ruminating thoughts, but it’s also a great way to foster connection with yourself. I love going on walks alone with nothing but the sound of the forest or waves crashing along the beach’s shore. It’s a great way to stay active and clear your head.
Step 4: Embrace the Freedom
The best part about being single is being able to do whatever the heck you want. Flirt around a little (or a lot), go on dates with cool people, and take every opportunity you can because you don’t have to consider anyone else’s stance on it.
Step 5: Challenge Yourself
The best part about being single is being able to do whatever the heck you want. Flit around a little (or a lot), go on dates with cool people, and take every opportunity you can because you don’t have to consider anyone else’s stance on it.
Step 5: Challenge Yourself
Being single really pushed me out of my comfort zone. I went from having someone to constantly hang out with to having to embrace being alone. I find it so rewarding to go to events alone, try new things, and set goals for myself I would’ve otherwise forgotten about.Â
Step 6: Journal
Reflection is the key to finding success in the future. For myself, I journaled a lot after my breakup. I wrote down everything I liked and didn’t like about my past relationships so I could learn from my experiences.
Step 7: Take Yourself Out
Go on dates with yourself. It may seem silly, but it’s so important to treat yourself the way you would want to be treated in a relationship. When I find the time, I love getting myself sushi or sketching at a cafe in the presence of my own great company
Step 8: Focus on Personal Growth
Staying the same is boring, so use this time to create your dream life. Put yourself out there, sign up for a course you wouldn’t regularly take, or even sign up for therapy. Relationships tend to distract us from inner work, so use this period of solitude to become the best version of yourself.
Being single doesn’t have to be some sad sob fest filled with wallowing and self-pity. I have learned through these eight steps that it’s some of the most fun you’ll ever have. So, if you’re considering breaking up with your mediocre partner or struggling to see the positives of your new single lifestyle, follow these steps, and I promise, you’ll fall in love with your single self.