Throughout our lives, many people will come in and out, allowing us many different relationships. Most of my favorites thus far have been my friendships.Â
Growing up, especially in high school, I was friends with many different types of people, including guys and girls. A lot of times, we see on social media, through other people, and on television that guys are easy to be friends with and that girls carry a lot of baggage in a friendship. Which is true. Guys are simple and easy to be friends with. Girls are messy, have their own drama, interests, social circles, etc., but the beautiful thing about their friendship is that they share that with each other.Â
My friendships with guys are often surface-level level and we do not discuss deep topics often at all. There are a couple of exceptions that I have, but for the most part, this is true. The things we discuss do not go much more inwards than what is going on in our lives. This is not to say that I do not value our friendship, but rather that it is at a different level than with my closest girl friends.
Obviously, I am not equally close with all my girl friends, but the ones I share a deep connection with, I treasure. Being friends with like-minded women has always been important to me, especially as I have gotten older and understand who I want to surround myself with.Â
Coming to college, I knew only one girl from my hometown. Being completely away from everyone and everything, I find comfort in was hard, especially with not having many people to talk to. I, of course, had my childhood best friend, but she was over three hours away. As our schedules began to differ, we found it hard to reach out in any other way than text. This only made it more important that I find close female friendships at college.Â
I decided to go Greek my freshman year, along with joining many other groups that had a predominantly female population. Throughout these groups, I found girls who not only have the same goals as me, but who match my vibe completely.Â
Through these female friendships, I have learned more about the importance of leaning on each other and supporting each other through everything. I think this is where people get confused about how female friendships are messy. I do not believe that they are inherently drama centers, but they allow deep connection through shared experiences.Â
I would not be the person I am today without the strong female friendships I have experienced. These relationships are vital not only to find out more about who you are by being your partner in crime, but also to help you establish your foundation with unwavering support. My friendships with women have brought me unconditional love and encouragement. A huge part of female friendship is the connection and being able to freely express yourself and find people who do not care about how embarrassing or imperfect you are.Â
One of my most memorable moments of the sisterhood I have found through my female friendships is when all of my hometown girl friends and I were getting ready for a concert and to have a girls’ night out. The intimacy of getting ready together, giving advice, and helping each other pick out hairstyles or outfits is something that cannot be replaced by anything. This moment is so precious to me because it reminds me of how glamorous and picturesque a female friendship can be.