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ODU | Wellness

The Balanced Blueprint: School, Serenity, and Showing Up For Yourself

Yasmin Edwards Student Contributor, Old Dominion University
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at ODU chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

“You are in control of your own life and that you have the ability to make a positive difference in the world.”

Don Miguel Ruiz

For many college women, navigating the pressures of academics, relationships, and personal growth means reclaiming control and redefining success not as perfection, but as presence, peace and purpose! In a world that often demands more than it gives, this article is a safe space to pause, reflect, and breathe. It is a reminder that burnout is not a rite of passage and that balance is not a luxury, but a necessity. Here we will be exploring practical strategies for managing school and life without losing yourself in the process. From setting boundaries to embracing rest, this is a blueprint for showing up fully, not just for grades or goals, but for your well being. Every college girl deserves to thrive, not just survive!

Tip #1: Romanticize Your Recharge 

Burnout thrives where rest is treated like a reward instead of a right. It is time to flip the script and make rest a necessity and sacred. 

  • Treat rest as a non-negotiable, not optional.
  • Identify what brings you joy in your down time such as scrolling on TikTok or any form of media, hitting the gym, adventuring the world, doing self care.

Schedule doing “nothing” like it’s your most important task.

  • Reframe rest as emotional maintenance, not laziness.
  • Remind yourself: Serenity isn’t a luxury, it’s part of your sustainability, strategy, and stability.

Tip #2: Curate Your Calm 

Create a space that feels like a soft landing, a place where your nervous system can exhale. 

  • Use soft lighting, cozy blankets, and decor that makes you feel safe.
  • Pin up affirmations or quotes that ground you.
  • Add calming scents, lavender, eucalyptus, vanilla, or whatever makes you feel at home.
  • Make your space a safe haven.
  • Click here to check out some stylish and cozy space ideas! 

Tip #3: Soundtrack Your Serenity

It is time to let music be your emotional co-pilot. Even a 10 minute break can feel like a time of release as the vibes of the music uplift you! 

Build playlists that match your moods: 

  • “Post Exam Peace”
  •  “Rainy Daze” 
  •  “Kisses for the Mind” 

Customize your playlists with emojis or cover art to give it your personality; use the music to transform your breaks into a dreamlike movement of tranquilly. YouTube is also a great media service to listen to free music through playlists already created.

Check out this R&B playlist to start you off with some soothing tunes! 

Tip #4: Romanticize Saying No

Protecting your peace is an act of self-devotion. It is our own responsibility to protect ourselves from our emotional spirals. Boundaries are beautiful. 

  • Give yourself time and energy to what you can control.
  • Recognize when others demand your attention during your recharge.
  • See yourself as a necessity, not a backup plan.
  • Remember Mel Robbins’ wisdom: Other people’s emotional reactions are not your responsibility.

If someone can’t respect your need to prioritize mental and physical health, take consideration in distance to stabilize your peace of mind.

Tip #5: Strategy Over Scramble 

Planning isn’t just about productivity, it’s about protecting your peace. Understanding what needs to get done first and prioritized.

  • Start each week with a “soft launch.” Review your schedule or invest in a cute planner or app such as Goodnotes or Canva to organize your life in an aesthetic that inspires you.
  • Use color coded calendars or sticky notes to visualize your priorities.
  • Break tasks into bite sized actions so your to do list feels doable, not overwhelming.
  • Make sure to build in breaks between classes, meetings, or study blocks- remember your time and space is sacred.
  • Let your planner reflect your values and creativity, not only your obligations.
  • Check out some cute planner ideas here!

Tip #6: Name It to Navigate It

Emotions are messengers, not enemies. When you name what you’re feeling, you reclaim power over it.

  • Practice emotional labeling: “I feel drained,” “I feel overwhelmed,” “I feel anxious.” You can even check your positive moments as well.“I feel at peace,” “I feel blessed,” “I feel successful.” 
  • Use mood trackers or journals to spot patterns over time. I use a personal, private Instagram account that’s just me on there where I express whatever, whenever I want! The best part is you can always go back and reflect and see your growth.
  • Don’t rush to fix, sometimes trying to move on from a situation can be a lot, take some time, think it over and refresh your mind. 
  • Let them think what they want. Let you do what you want!
  • Remember clarity is one of the main steps to healing .

Tip #7: Unsubscribe from Overwhelmingness

  • Not every notification deserves your attention. Not every task is urgent!
  • Turn off non-essential alerts during study or rest time.
  • Use “Do Not Disturb” as a boundary, not a barrier.
  • Create a “mental unsubscribe list” of things you’re no longer available for (guilt, comparison, chaos).
  • Reclaim your mental capacity for what truly matters: You!

College life will always come with challenges, but how you show up for yourself in the midst of it all is what defines your journey. From romanticizing your recharge to unsubscribing from overwhelmness, each strategy in this blueprint is a gentle rebellion against burnout culture and a bold affirmation of your worth. 

You are not here to be perfect. You are here to be present. To be peaceful. To be powerful in your own way.

Let this guide be your reminder:

You are allowed to rest.

You are allowed to say no.

You are allowed to take up space, protect your energy, and prioritize your well-being!

As Joseph Nguyen reminds us “Any meaning or thinking we give something is self-created and our choice.” These words start with how you treat yourself. So go ahead and thrive, rest unapologetically and show up for yourself like you mean it.

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You deserve nothing less!

Yasmin Edwards

ODU '26

I am currently pursuing a degree in English with a minor in psychology at Old Dominion University. Throughout my studies, I have developed a strong passion for storytelling, communication, and mental health advocacy. My coursework has allowed me to explore areas such as digital writing, journalism, creative writing, and cognitive psychology, all of which have shaped me into a versatile thinker and writer. I am also honored to be a recipient of the James B. Reece Endowed Scholarship, which has further motivated me to uphold academic excellence and use my education to make a meaningful impact.

My professional goal is to become an investigative journalist who uses writing to amplify marginalized voices and highlight important issues. I draw inspiration from pioneering journalists like Ida B. Wells-Barnett, who used her work to demand justice and social change. I hope to follow in those footsteps by reporting on topics such as human rights, social justice, environmental sustainability, and mental health. In the long term, I aspire to write for respected publications such as The New York Times or National Geographic while also mentoring young and aspiring journalists through workshops and one-on-one guidance.

Outside of academics and career goals, I enjoy exploring my creativity and personal interests. I have a love for makeup, shopping, and fashion, which allow me to express myself and stay connected to current trends. I also value practicing mental health and well-being, spending time in nature, and discovering new experiences. Whether I am trying new restaurants, traveling to unfamiliar places, or simply relaxing at the beach, I enjoy immersing myself in activities that bring balance and joy. These interests not only enrich my life but also inspire my writing and advocacy, fueling my passion for connecting with others and sharing meaningful stories.