When we think of dating, most of us picture candlelit dinners, movie nights with someone special, or long walks with a partner. However, what if I told you that one of the most rewarding relationships you’ll ever have is the one you build with yourself? College can feel like chaos between balancing classes, work shifts, club meetings, and social plans. This whirlwind often leaves little room for self-reflection. While it’s exciting to share experiences with friends or a significant other, there’s something deeply empowering about choosing to spend intentional time alone.
In fact, research shows that being single can have surprising benefits. According to the American Psychological Association (APA) and Bella DePaulo, PhD, a scientist at the University of California, Santa Barbara, “single people have a heightened sense of self-determination and they are more likely to experience ‘a sense of continued growth and development as a person.’” In other words, carving out time for yourself isn’t just relaxing: it’s linked to long-term personal growth.
“Dating yourself” isn’t about isolation. It’s about celebrating your independence, prioritizing your mental health, and learning to enjoy your own company. It’s about realizing you don’t need external validation to feel special; you’re capable of giving that to yourself. These moments of solitude can help you feel more grounded, confident, and refreshed, which in turn makes you show up as your best self in every other area of life.
This semester, instead of waiting for someone else’s schedule to align with yours, try carving out time for yourself. Treating yourself doesn’t have to mean spending lots of money or planning an elaborate day; it can be as simple as getting a coffee, taking a walk, or enjoying a solo hobby. To help you get started, here are seven solo date ideas that will make your semester happier, healthier, and more fulfilling.
1. Coffee Shop Study Date
Heading to a local café is the perfect way to feel productive and pampered all at once. The ambience of espresso machines and voices around you can give you just the right amount of background energy while you study, write, or journal. Try bringing your laptop to one of these Orlando coffee shop suggestions, order something seasonal, and block out an hour to work on an assignment or just reflect in your journal.
2. Take Yourself Out to Lunch
Dining out alone can feel intimidating at first, but it’s actually freeing once you get past the initial awkwardness. You don’t have to wait for friends’ schedules to match up, and you get to choose exactly what you’re in the mood for. Try heading to Bento at Waterford Lakes for a bento box or sushi, grab a window seat, and enjoy your food without distractions. Maybe even leave your phone in your bag to be fully present.
3. Movie Night for One
Watching a movie solo is underrated self-care. You can pick exactly what you want to see, laugh, or cry as much as you want, and fully immerse yourself without worrying about anyone else’s reactions. Buy yourself a ticket to the Regal Waterford Lakes theater (they’re only $7 on Tuesdays), splurge on extra-butter popcorn, and enjoy the luxury of not having to share.
4. Explore a Local Spot
Exploring UCF’s college town alone can feel like a mini-adventure. Without the pressure of keeping up with a group, you’re free to wander at your own pace and really take things in. Spend an afternoon strolling through Winter Park, and treat yourself to something small like chocolate at Kilwins, or even buy something more personal like a book or a handmade print.
5. Wellness Date
Solo wellness dates are all about checking in with your mind and body. Whether it’s yoga, pilates, a gym session, or just some deep stretching in your room, moving intentionally can reduce stress and boost your mood. Try joining a free fitness session at the RWC, then reward yourself afterward with a refreshing smoothie bowl from Playa Bowls.
6. Cook (or Bake) for Yourself
Cooking for yourself is more than just making food: it’s an act of love. Even if it’s something simple, the process of preparing and plating a meal shows you that you’re worth the effort. Try picking up ingredients from Publix, bake a batch of brownies in your dorm’s community kitchen, and enjoy them while watching your favorite comfort show.
7. Sunset Stroll
Sometimes the best solo dates are the simplest ones. Taking a walk during golden hour gives you space to clear your mind, listen to music, and just breathe. Throw on your headphones, queue up a feel-good playlist, and head to the Reflecting Pond to watch the sky shift into dreamy colors.
Dating yourself is more than just filling time: it’s about making space for self-discovery, self-care, and moments that are entirely your own. College life can be hectic, and it’s easy to get caught up in schedules, assignments, and social obligations, but taking the time to enjoy your own company reminds you that your happiness doesn’t have to depend on anyone else. Regardless of how you spend time alone, solo dates give you a chance to slow down, recharge, and reconnect with what truly makes you feel good.
Learning to embrace solo adventures can also boost your confidence and independence. When you’re comfortable enjoying your own company, you show up more fully in every other area of life, such as friendships, classes, or future relationships. Plus, there’s something undeniably empowering about treating yourself like someone special. So, this semester, don’t be afraid to plan those study dates, lunch trips, or evening walks just for you. After all, the best relationship you’ll ever have might be the one with yourself.